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January 21st, 2010, 10:33 AM
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I've started nesting.. and I want everything cleaned and done a certain way..But, because I'm supposed to be on modified bedrest, alot of the cleaning I want to do, that takes more energy, I can't do, and ITS KILLING ME... I want to scrub, mop, sweep, vacuum, stand..

But EVERYTHING DH does, I have a problem with.. I know its not fair to him, and I try to bite my tongue.. I try to let it go, but there are some things that are ANNOYING me to no end!!! I think ontop of everything else, I'm getting more irratable than I've been this entire pregnancy because I don't sleep well at night, and I'm always uncomfortable... It would cause some really bad tension and fights between us if all I constantly did was nit-pick everything he does, but some thing NEED TO BE NIT PICKED and I can't stand to bite my tongue anymore!!

I can't even stand how he folds laundry, or does laundry, or does the dishes..And he lets things go for so long that I have to constantly bug him to do it, and he gets mad at me.. I get so so so mad when we have like a GIGANTIC load of laundry, that I can't lift or constantly bend to put in and out of the washer/dryer.. So it gets to the point wher eI'm out of clean underwear, DS is out of clean pants or school clothes, and he's just like "yeah. I'll do it today." And THENNN it doesn't get done and I get even more ****** about it getting done..

I can't stand this, and I'm sure he can't stand me bossing him around like a drill seargent, but but but I want things a certain way. I used to do all the cleaning and laundry and dishes before I started working full time back in April..then he was "supposed" to, and still didn't do anything, so I did most of it.. Then I got pregnant and put on bedrest.. The house has just been a living nightmare for MONTHS..

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January 21st, 2010, 10:48 AM
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Sorry! ((HUGS)) It's tough but sometimes you just gotta let em do it there way and not fuss over it.

There are a lot of things dh does to help me that aren't right but I've learned to let it go. In a few months I can take over again and fix it all the right way
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January 21st, 2010, 10:51 AM
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i know,i'm just irratable lol.. It makes me feel bad that I want to strangle him for doing things a certain way (like cleaning the toilet, but ONLY The top and inside, not the sides or the bottom where the boys have a tendency to drizzle) when now he's out there cooking me a ham and cheese sandwich.. He really does ALOT for me, but I'm pregnant and moody LOL..
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January 21st, 2010, 10:55 AM
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i know,i'm just irratable lol.. It makes me feel bad that I want to strangle him for doing things a certain way (like cleaning the toilet, but ONLY The top and inside, not the sides or the bottom where the boys have a tendency to drizzle) when now he's out there cooking me a ham and cheese sandwich.. He really does ALOT for me, but I'm pregnant and moody LOL..
Ha Ha! I gripe about that too clean around the commode after all your the one drizzling on it! LOL I've said that plenty of times to dh
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January 21st, 2010, 12:05 PM
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I have to go out of town for the weekend and he has to work so I've left my hubbie a very small "to do" list. He clutters up everything and it's driving me crazy, but when I move things he says that he pays the rent for the house so therefore he can put his stuff wherever he wants.

Also, he has cooked maybe one meal in the last month and doesn't do ANY chores, just dumps stuff everywhere. Is it THAT hard to throw away the soda container when you're done drinking it??? No...let's just leave it on the counter. Also he's making MORE requests of me lately...I want the coffee made when I wake up at 6am (or else he makes it and makes a mess which he leaves for me) I need dinner ready when I get home from work, and I want a lunch packed.

Isn't this the time when he's supposed to do more for the house and make me do less??

You wanna talk about laundry?? haha...he's military so he wants his shirts folded exactly so, and his socks rolled this way, and his underwear.

I feel your pain, at least he's helping!! And you're stranded and on bedrest so I'm sure it's driving you crazy. It's only a few more months and as long as he doesn't burn the house down I'd just grin and bear it. Maybe make a little voodoo doll of him and stab it when you get angry...lol.

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January 21st, 2010, 12:16 PM
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I know how exactly how you feel. You should try at least have a talk with him but try to bite your tougue more often, even though I know how hard it is.. the only thing I am getting away with is making the bed, the rest of the house I have to still clean...sweeping/mopping etc is killing me!
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January 21st, 2010, 01:09 PM
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Haha I'm in that nesting, cleaning up all the time phase too! I get so angry with BD, mostly when he's not home b/c I'm come home and see the house looking slightly different than I left it. I fussed at him one day and said "I think you do this "crap" on purpose?". I think its time for me and him to have a talk so that he can know that I'm in this nesting phase so dont get too angry or frustrated.
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January 21st, 2010, 02:42 PM
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Agh.. I'm sorry. I can understand how you feel. I am the same way when it comes to the house and cleaning. I always do it myself because DH puts things off FOREVER.. I cannot imagine not being able to do it myself and rely on him. I would probably go crazy too..
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