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January 23rd, 2010, 09:44 AM
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So I have a question on manners for baby shower stuff and hosts. My sister told me back in September that she wanted to throw me a shower. She hasn't said anything at all about it, and I don't know that it's polite to ask. She hasn't been making the best decisions ( anyone who read my under the umbrella knows what I mean) well she is now living in a hotel...... I can't see her being able to afford one or have time to host one. Should I ask her? I almost feel like I should pay for my own and ask a friend to host it instead ( which I kinda feel is tacky.....)

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January 23rd, 2010, 04:15 PM
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If you feel uncomfortable asking your sister could you ask a close friend to see if maybe they received an invite? Maybe you could bring it up to your sister by saying "I know things are tough right now so maybe I can help with the shower" (I did not read your under the umbrellas so I don't know what is going on). Maybe by saying that you will be able to figure it out.

I don't know what your relationship is with your sister but I definitely feel that it is ok to just ask her.
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January 23rd, 2010, 04:19 PM
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I read your situation with your sister, and I don't think that you should wait on her.. You'd probably be better off throwing one on your own, or getting a friend to help.. If you have any really good friends, or a close female family member (other than your sis) I'm sure they wouldn't mind helping you..

Its not tacky.
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January 23rd, 2010, 04:22 PM
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I can see where that is a difficult and uneasy situation.
I guess if it were me I would assume that if she is living in a hotel she probably can not, or should not be affording to throw a baby shower. My sister often makes grand offers that she shouldn't make becuase she totally lacks the means to follow through. Maybe your sister is the same way?
Here's what I would do, becuase I don't have the guts to directly approach someone about it. I would sort of mention to a friend or two how my sister had offered to throw a shower but has never brought it up again and how since she's living in a hotel, I doubted she could or should throw one, even if she wanted to. I would mention that I was little bit bummed but that I understood. Then I would totally hope that my friends "got it" and decided to throw me one! I am not very good at being direct, so I would be too chicken to say anything more direct!
Good luck. I hope you get your shower. That would be awesome!!!
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January 23rd, 2010, 06:02 PM
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Worst case after the baby is born you could throw your own "welcome baby" party, sure you're not going to get things you might need before the baby comes, but 1/2 the time the things you get at showers aren't really what you need anyways so you'll probably still end up with blankets, outfits, diapers etc and that way you don't need to feel like you're hosting your own shower in a sneaky way and you can show off your baby (I'd say wait till baby is about 2 months old and the major germ worries are over if you're concerned about that).
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January 24th, 2010, 06:07 AM
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That's a hard situation! I'd probably do what Angela said. But I'm not direct enough to straight up ask!
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January 24th, 2010, 07:19 AM
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I probably wouldnt rely on her since she's living in a hotel and going thru some things.

I'd just ask a close friend to help or let them know that you really want a baby shower but dont think thaty ou're goign to get one. Has anyone asked you about a baby shower or registry. I'd mention to them that you're unsure b/c nobody has mentioned throwing you one.
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January 25th, 2010, 09:17 AM
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Here's what I would do, becuase I don't have the guts to directly approach someone about it. I would sort of mention to a friend or two how my sister had offered to throw a shower but has never brought it up again and how since she's living in a hotel, I doubted she could or should throw one, even if she wanted to. I would mention that I was little bit bummed but that I understood. Then I would totally hope that my friends "got it" and decided to throw me one!quote]

I agree with this. I would just hint around to one of my close friends and then hope that she caught on. If all else fails, Candi's suggestion is great too. Have a "Welcome Baby" party on your own after the baby is born.
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January 25th, 2010, 09:25 AM
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Thanks girls I happened to mention this to mention the issue with a good friend of mine and she called me and was like HELLO I would love to do it!! Thanks for the suggestions girls.
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January 25th, 2010, 09:31 AM
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Sweet!!!!
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