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Sorry if this gets long Im just feeling really frustrated right now.
So bens brother lives in oklahoma and we have been here to visit almost every year since we got married. Well its just gotten harder and harder being pregnant and then having a baby and then both. So this year I was a little hesitant to come. I looked for plane tickets waaay ahead of time and just could not find anything even close to what it would cost us to drive. It was just way cheaper even with the gas prices being high.
So I had originally decided to not come this year well he and ben kept begging me and matt even said he would be off work so it would work out perfectly. Well after a not so relaxing two day drive and a week here we have hardly spent any time with him He goes out every other night with his buddies, sleeps in and then goes to this painting job he's been working on. The only thing we have done is go out to eat and go to the park thats on his street.
Oh and the other thing that is really frustrating is that lacey is in the same bedroom (his) as us and wakes up several times a night because she can see us and wants to be in bed with us. Well besides me being preggo and my pregnancy pillow and ben just being a big guy it is just not comfortable with her in the bed with us. We tried letting her sleep with us except she insists on trying to sleep on top of me literally! AND to top that off he is complaining about having to sleep on the couch so he got out his air mattress (that has a hole in it) so then he complains about that every day?!?! Seriously I just think that is so rude.
So right now we are debating on whether or not we are actually going to stay another week. Ben tried to make plans for this upcoming week and matt just won't commit to anything. He is very wishy-washy and honestly just selfish. He is making me feel like us being here is an inconvenience. I get homesick easily not to mention there are things that I could be doing at home like a baby shower and a new moms group ive been wanting to go to.
Thanks for reading if you made it this far. I just needed to vent to someone or else im just going to tell him off and leave.
Wow! He doesn't sound like a very hospitable host! Who wants to drive two days to see someone who is never home, doesn't stick to thier word, and complains every day! That is terrible and I don't blame you for how you feel. Maybe next year tell him that he needs to come see you. That would alleviate most of the issues. He wouldn't have anything else to do exept stick to his word and spend time with you- you woudn't be out the money for the trip and you and the kids would be in your own home. I really do think folks with no kids should be willing to do the traveling anyhow at least most of the time. It's simply easier. Next year you'll have TWO to travel with.
As far as whether or not to leave early- I'd leave it up to Ben since its his brother. I don't blame you for wanting to go though! Hope things improve.