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Okay, so my DH and I have plans for a nice little first father's day...going to have a picnic beside the lake at the park, play some frisbee, go to the golf range...And then yesterday I get an e-mail from my MIL stating that her, my FIL, my DH's brothers and his wives are all coming up to stay with us to visit Jack. Um???? Thanks for the heads up. I'm quite annoyed that not only is our father's day wrecked, but now I have to cook and clean for these people as well for the whole weekend when I hadn't planned on that. I'm quite bummed. Am I being selfish? I mean, they want to see their son and grandson, I understand that. But to not even see if we had plans of our own? ANNOYED.
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Last edited by chloe12; June 17th, 2010 at 11:04 AM.
I don't think you are wrong to be annoyed. There isn't much you can do about it probably w/out starting a bigger issue so that sucks, but maybe find out from dh if that's what HE wants since it is his day.
I don't think you are wrong to be annoyed. There isn't much you can do about it probably w/out starting a bigger issue so that sucks, but maybe find out from dh if that's what HE wants since it is his day.
I agree with Alicia! Sorry that stinks. I frequently have my pretty little plans rained on by the MIL, I try to react in love and understanding but its usually not without an internal tug-of-war first.
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Your MIL is used to it being your FIL's day. As in your hubby (and his brothers) probably always spent this day with him. It probably just hasnt sunk in for you MIL that you DH is now a dad and the day is for him too.
But no where in your plans does it mention your DH celebrating his father or your father, if he is around so maybe im overthinking things.
But yes, to answer your question.....I would be annoyed if they all invited themselves to your house too. That is rude!!!
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This happened to me too this weekend. I have to be at church for VBS program so was planning to take DH out to lunch afterwards but now the inlaws and two siblings are coming--same as you. Now I have to clean and cook.
My MIL is way to self absorbed to think about anyone but herself so it doesn't suprise me. Rude? yes. However, I just think about our lives 30 years down the road and hope that our sons will make time for my husband on fathers day and that makes me willing to spend the day with everyone.
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Thanks for your input ladies. I suppose I never really thought about them wanting their son to see his Dad on father's day. It's just annoying to me that there was nothing to speak of of people coming up to visit us, so we went ahead and made our own plans. I'm busy enough with Jack and now I need to get rooms ready for all these people to sleep in and food and such in a matter of a days notice. In the end I will be a gracious host and put my feelings aside.
And another thing - his younger brother booked all the guys a tee time for 18 holes of golf. So that means a good chunk of the day is James being gone. So much for father's day with my husband!
HEHEHE tell them Jack is one of the guys now and he has to go too!
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Rylee Madison 12-7-2001
Our Trisomy 18 baby boy 2/10/2009 @20.1 weeks
McKenna Claire 3-12-2010
Angel in Heaven 3/16/2011- 12.3 weeks
Hey Chloe, one thing that might help--since like it sounds like you have to do this whether you want to or not. Ask your dh if next weekend (or a time that will work) you can have your own mini-father's day celebration and do the things that are in your heart to do for him--picnic, spending the day just the three of you, etc. That way you can still have some of the special time and memories you were hoping for. After all, the 20th is just some day card companies came up with. There's no reason you can't celebrate a special day on a day when the in-laws aren't in town.
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Psalm 139:13-14 "For you [God] created my inmost being;
you knit me together in my mother's womb.
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made..."
after all, the 20th is just some day card companies came up with. There's no reason you can't celebrate a special day on a day when the in-laws aren't in town.
We have my MIL and BIL in town this weekend...so we are having our own mini-fathers day in July when we have all our vacations/visits done with and its just us again
Could you celebrate alone before they get there?
so maybe im overthinking things.
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