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Haha I know there are lots of strong opinions about this family out there!!
Personally, I think considering how premature Baby Josie was, I honestly hope that she takes some time off from baby making. She is obviously a very fertile lady and they don't use any form of BC. Hopefully they can use the rhythm method or something. I cannot imagine her getting pregnant again with a baby just out of the NICU after almost 6 months there. All of their kids are were conceived with the max of a year in between each one from what I understand.
I'm so conflicted on their family. Part of me says woo hoo, they're living debt free which is awesome but I'm sure at this point they're getting paid very nicely by TLC for their show. The way they live would never work well for my family but to each his own.
The only thing I really don't like is I feel like the girls are raised just to be homemakers. I would love to hear that one of their daughters went off to college but I don't think that will ever happen. Not that I think anything is wrong with being a SAHM (I would love to be one myself one day!!), I just feel that you have to teach them that they have all the options in the world and all of their older girls have basically been made into mini mommies since the older ones watch the younger ones. One of them is going to rebel one day. I think it will be Jinger
i remember Michelle mentioning something about it because of the scare they had but wasnt sure if they were going to continue
okay my post started out way long.. im just gona edit and make it more short and sweet
on THIS family, i do not mind one bit, they don't live off the state. it only would bother me if they kept having more kids after more when already living off the state
I believe their family choice is to accept how many children God gives them. I don't think they have an "enough" number. I also feel Josie was not an indicator that their time is "up". Josie just so happened to be premature. My second child/ pregnancy I had pre-eclampsia , several bouts of preterm labor and then preterm birth. At one month he also had a bowel obstruction, life support, multiple surgeries, TPN feeds, tube feeds, and four months at children's hospital. All my other children are healthy with problem free pregnancies. Had I stopped at him, in fear that future pregnancies/babies would have problems, I would have just my two boys.
I am surprised Josie was the only baby they've had with any issues. Seems to me they have great genes to produce great kids. I personally do not have a set "number" myself and believe each families' choice of size is their own.
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i remember Michelle mentioning something about it because of the scare they had but wasnt sure if they were going to continue
okay my post started out way long.. im just gona edit and make it more short and sweet
on THIS family, i do not mind one bit, they don't live off the state. it only would bother me if they kept having more kids after more when already living off the state
Ditto!!!
As long as they are not depending on the state to pay for those kids to each their own!
I think their family is amazing! I read their book and they have lived debt free for years. Way before the tv show.
I don't mind that they girls are being raised as homemakers one bit either. Thats all I wanted to do. I wish my parents had taught me more about budgeting, caring for a home and taking care of children instead of learning it on my own. If that is what they want to do then that is ok. I am sure if they wanted to do more with their life that would be an option too.
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pic taken 7/22/11
I agree 100% with Jo and Lisa!!! I think the Duggars are great and I find their family and their values and faith in God very inspirational. If I didn't fear having a lack of money, I would leave how many children I have up to God as well!!! I'm currently on my 3rd child and I am not done having kids by any means!!!
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I think the Duggars are a very put together, loving, and smart family. I have no problems with them having more children as long as they can be healthy. I was so sad when I heard about lil Josie but it really looks like she is going to be okay and as long as the mom doesn't have any persisting conditions I see nothing wrong with it.
I haven't watched them since the first couple seasons. Myself, I also think they are bringing up a very respectable brood and have no problems with them wishing to instill homemaker values upon their daughters. I think it's refreshing actually. Old tyme Christian beliefs I guess.
As for the state not supporting them, if memory serves correctly, they were on welfare and other state programs in the beginning but with the TLC paychecks I'm gonna guess they've exceeded their income requirements
I personally wouldn't try to have that many kids but I think they're an AMAZING family. They're everything we strive to be: A Christian home schooling family with well adjusted kids. I give her kudos, she's one strong mama
I haven't watched them since the first couple seasons. Myself, I also think they are bringing up a very respectable brood and have no problems with them wishing to instill homemaker values upon their daughters. I think it's refreshing actually. Old tyme Christian beliefs I guess.
As for the state not supporting them, if memory serves correctly, they were on welfare and other state programs in the beginning but with the TLC paychecks I'm gonna guess they've exceeded their income requirements
I read their book and they never talked about being on welfare. They were 'self-made' way before the tv show. They believe in living debt free and buy just about everything second hand.
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Lisa ~ Mommy to Austin (2000), Xander (2002) and Jace (11/3/10)
pic taken 7/22/11
^^ They owned several rental properties, like huge warehouse deals before TLC & made money leasing those, as well as only buying what they need, handing down & making clothing.
They were never on Welfare.
I wont ad my 2c because they are not very nice, but just because you can get pregnant 20-30 times, doesn't mean you should.
I dont think that could possibly be healthy for your body in any way. I agree that its wonderful that they have raised such kind and well behaved children, but I find them odd.
I think it's great they are living debt free and are raising thier children in a Christian home. That's awesome. But, as previous posters have said, I think the way they raise their girls to be strictly homemakers is not preparing them for the future. What happens when they marry one day and thier husband leaves them for someone else? What happens if he dies? Do the girls just expect to move back in with mom and dad and live off them? Teaching children to be self sufficient is SO important. It's not going to matter how well they bake a cake or keep a home clean , if their husband wants to go and cheat or passes away unexpectedly. Thier great homemaking skills aren't going to matter when they are left with absolutely nothing and no skills outside the home.
So, really it's not the number of children they have, it's how they choose to raise their little girls.
I personally feel sorry for the older children having to take care of the younger ones. If Michelle wanted all of those children, it should be her responsibility to take care of them! And I also think she should quit while she's ahead - count your blessings and take Josie's premature birth as a sign to stop procreating!! My opinion...
I personally feel sorry for the older children having to take care of the younger ones. If Michelle wanted all of those children, it should be her responsibility to take care of them! And I also think she should quit while she's ahead - count your blessings and take Josie's premature birth as a sign to stop procreating!! My opinion...
I think that's rather unfair!! As a preemie mother, should I have counted my blessings and stopped when my second child was born premature??
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Wife to Chris (9.17.04)- Mommy to Edward (7.15.05)-Preston (5.28.08)-Mason (11.4.10)
I think that's rather unfair!! As a preemie mother, should I have counted my blessings and stopped when my second child was born premature??
I'm guessing she meant it in the way of her body may not be as up to par as it was years ago, shes had issues with multiple pregnancies, and it just seems as if she keeps pushing her luck IMO
Yeah I don't think all those pregnancies or healthy. I don't like the fact that the older kids are expected to do a lot of the parents duties. I understand teaching kids about responsibility and how to care for others but it wasn't the older kids choice to have all those siblings. Like I said, I totally think they mean well and overall they are doing a good job (the way they home school is different than the way I plan to.. computer programs all the time, leaving them to do things alone, having the older kids teach the younger ones, ect) but there are far worse parents out there who have less kids. I personally want my body back, to sleep through the night, enjoy my 40s and up with just Andy and grown kids, all the messes and diapers, ect... I love my kids but I'm selfish enough to want some sanity back and to not be up through the night for years on end
yes, i will not state much of an opinion here. it is a sensitive subject to a lot of people. i personally think they are selfish for a number of reasons
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