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July 17th, 2010, 10:40 AM
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Let me start out by mentioning I am very petite...5'1 and about 108 pounds presently. I come from a petite tribe so I am not expecting to get any taller. However I really don't look pregnant when I am clothed, my husband can tell when I am in the shower and the boob fairy has visited me as well. But I haven't really "popped" and people are starting to act weird when they find out how far along I am.

At work I am constantly asked about my weight and size. When I tell them I am 16+ weeks pregnant they invariably look at my (non)belly and then the questions begin. They ask if I am measuring behind or if I am not eating enough. Someone even asked if I smoked! We don't really show until around the last trimester in my family so I never thought it would be an issue. But now I am constantly doubting myself and monitoring my meals. I haven't expereienced a great increase in appetite and just recently my hyperemesis has started tapering off. (thank God!)

I see belly shots and wistfully stare at baby bumps of women who are due around the same time as me. ANyone else experience this kind of guilt? Why do I feel like something is wrong now?
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July 17th, 2010, 10:49 AM
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I think I am due the same day as you. Girl, I am 5'7" , average weight (before getting preg) and I do not look pregnant yet. AND this is my 2nd kid. lol Dont feel bad!
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July 17th, 2010, 11:23 AM
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I'm about 5'8, normal weight before I got pregnant and this is my second baby too. I actually had somebody come in our store a couple of days ago and say "oh you look good, you've lost weight haven't you." DH says he can tell with clothes on, and I can definitely tell without clothes, but in my normal non-maternity shirts I don't think I look pregnant at all, maybe a little chubbier..but not pregnant. I'm only up 1/2lb from my starting weight as of my dr's appt yesterday though. So yeah..don't feel bad at all.
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July 17th, 2010, 11:38 AM
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Don't feel bad! You can't control the way your body carries the baby. I'm sure your little one is growing and changing just the way it shoudl be. I've been feeling self-conscious for the opposite reason - people have been telling me my belly looks big for 20 weeks! It's not that they mean I've gained a lot of weight, just that my belly sticks way out. I think it's because I'm carrying the baby higher rather than down low. I'm sure you'll "pop" soon.
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July 17th, 2010, 11:51 AM
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I'm petite as well and up until this week you couldn't really tell that I was pg. This week though I popped! Don't worry about what your body does, everyone is different.
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July 17th, 2010, 01:36 PM
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You are blessed to have abs that actually don't flop down the moment you eat a piece of bread. There is nothing to be ashamed of...lol. If this is your first baby, it will probably take awhile. I'm on baby #5 and have a serious kangaroo pouch (thank you children) and I just look like a big blob....there IS a pregnant belly somewhere under all that.
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July 17th, 2010, 08:33 PM
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I'm on baby #5 (5'10 and a size 4 when I got pg) and I just popped between 18-19 weeks. I was beginning to worry around the 16-17 week mark myself. No worries, I bet everything is just fine!
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July 17th, 2010, 09:48 PM
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Im tiny, Im only 4'9" and 95 lbs according to my last appt. Im 18 weeks today and I thought I should be showing more since this is my 2nd but I know for my size personally Im fine. Today as a matter of fact, not even 5 minutes into walking into the mall with my mom some chick asked how far along I was and when I told her shes like "omg your so small!" So I wouldnt worry too much, in no time youll start seeing that belly grow Everyone's body is different.
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July 18th, 2010, 01:25 PM
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Some women just have really long stomachs so the baby is hidden for a while until it gets way bigger and has nowhere else to go lol. I have a friend who's nearly 7 months along and her belly is the same size as mine and her baby is measuring perfect. I'm really petite too, about 5'2 but I have a nonexistent torso so I'm popping like crazy and feel rather fat. Don't feel bad at all, we're all built differently!
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July 18th, 2010, 01:32 PM
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I'm nearly 21 weeks pregnant and my bump isn't that big. I wore a maternity shirt to my u/s the other day and I kept asking my sister do I look pregnant? I'm 5'8 and 128 lbs (below the weight I should be) and my belly really isn't "defined" yet.

I usually don't pop out till about 25 weeks or so. But keep in my the baby is really small at 16 weeks still. Once you do get that big ole belly you'll wish it were small again. lol. But don't feel bad the little bub will pop out soon.
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July 19th, 2010, 05:50 AM
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I always tell people round figures. When they ask when I'm due or how far along I am. I say "Christmas"...most people cannot begin to do the math in their head.
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