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The speech teacher I work closely with for the past 6 yrs...after 10 years of infertility she finally got pregnant with twins. She was due in December. On Friday, AT WORK, her water ruptured. I've always heard very good odds for twins @ 32 weeks so I figured they'd be in NICU and all, but she'd finally have her babies.
I got a call just a bit ago...something catastrophic happened after her water broke. Not sure of the details yet but her daughter, Eva, was born first by emergency c/s and weighed a little over 2 lbs. She died shortly after birth. Her son, Bradley was born a half hour later and is fighting for his life.
I am so mad. I am so angry. I could break something. She is the nicest person ever, she deserves to be a mother more than ANYONE I know. How can I get pregnant SO easily and have two children SO easily and THIS happens to her. I can't stop crying. It is so wrong.
Ohhh no that is so sad. I can't imagine what your co-worker is going through right now. Things like this just never make sense.I'm keeping her and her son in my thoughts, hopefully he is able to pull through. Keep us posted Michelle, I'm so sorry to hear this. At times like this there are few words that can be said.
I feel like a total @ss. I told her as I walked her to her car that everything would be fine, that 32 weeks for twins was great odds.
So sorry to hear about your co-worker friend. Things just aren't fair! You aren't an "@ss" ... 32 weeks are great odds - sadly the odds didn't seem to be in her favor for both of her pumpkins. I hope her son is able to pull through and recover.
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When you mentioned it on FB, I thought to myself "32 weeks is pretty good for twins, they'll be fine." I am so sorry to hear this. Absolutely heartbreaking. It reminds all of us to be grateful for what we have.
I have tears from reading this. It just isn't fair and makes me so sad and angry when I read stories like this too.
I, personally, never had any infertility issues, but a very high number of the girls on the stillbirth board on JM do have infertililty issues and ended up losing their baby(ies). It makes me so upset that first they have to go through so much pain and difficulties just to get pregnant and then they end up losing their baby. SO UNFAIR.
I am SO sorry to hear that the little girl didn't make it - the pain the parents must be feeling right now . I will be keeping Bradley in my thoughts that he continues to breathe on his own and pulls through to be a strong, healthy boy!
That is really sad. I know how you feel about it being "unfair." In the high school I teach in, two 16 year old girls just had their babies last week and they were both perfectly healthy. It makes me so sad that some women have no issues at all, where women who want it SO bad often have to go through the hardest trials. It is definitely NOT fair.
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How sad , thinking of her and praying for her little one.
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When you mentioned it on FB, I thought to myself "32 weeks is pretty good for twins, they'll be fine." I am so sorry to hear this. Absolutely heartbreaking. It reminds all of us to be grateful for what we have.
I thought the same thing! She is in my prayers!!!
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Gosh... how sad for them? I am praying for them. I am learning that in situations where I am angry and I don't understand why bad things happen to such good people that I must remember that God gives us these burdens to make us lean on him more. He doesn't do it to punish us. I am a fertility patient so I understand the sadness that brings, and was angry for some time that I couldn't get pregnant but my sister who doesn't and shouldn't be having kids just keeps getting pregnant over and over. Made me so angry... then I realized that it wasn't about me deserving to get pregnant any more than any one else. It was a matter of me letting God do his magic and give me what I needed. Still though, I ache for your friend and their family right now.
