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January 12th, 2011, 01:46 PM
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Ok, so here is my question...is it appropriate to have a birthday party with just cake, ice cream and a few snacks? It seems like people expect a meal nowadays, and we really don't want to spend the money (or the time) to prepare a meal for 25+ people. And we don't have the sit down space to eat it!

So if I had a b-day party at like 3 in the afternoon and specified on the invite that it was cake/ice cream only, would that be okay?

I don't want to offend people, but the point of gathering is to celebrate, not eat, right?

What do you think?
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January 12th, 2011, 01:53 PM
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I think i would do it a bit earlier like 2 and make it go until 4 or so so you arent running into dinner time at all... but otherwise i think its fine!
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January 12th, 2011, 02:16 PM
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I think its totally fine! I do plenty of b-day parties that way. What I do is exactly what you said...I plan it for a time that is in between meals so that guests wont be expecting a full on meal. For example, if you held a party at noon that was to last till three, guests would probably expect some type of lunch. But if you plan a party at say, 2:00 or 3:00 to last only a couple hours, guests should get the idea that they need to eat lunch before hand. I think for an afternoon party cake and ice cream is just fine!
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January 12th, 2011, 02:32 PM
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That's fine. We do that a lot with my older ds's parties b/c by the time family and friends come plus his friends and their parents that's a lot of people so we just do cake and ice cream.
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January 12th, 2011, 02:40 PM
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Tonight is Kaija's birthday party and we're having tacos, chips and salsa, fruit and cake. But it's at 5:30 so dinner is expected. We were going to have it at 3 on Saturday and the menu would have been the same. We've done all of her parties mid-afternoon on weekends. I guess I don't know if it was expected that we'd have a meal but we always have. But I do think it's totally fine to just have cake, ice cream and snacks.
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January 12th, 2011, 04:53 PM
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I think it's fine as long as you specify that on the invite
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January 12th, 2011, 05:30 PM
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Yep! I agree that it's fine. If a party was in the afternoon, I would expect to eat before going!
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January 12th, 2011, 06:05 PM
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totally fine!!!

I've had both for Kinley...her first we had hot dogs/burgers/homemade ice cream and cake. For her 2nd and 3rd we just had cake & ice cream ...the invites just said cake and homemade ice cream will be provided. or cake and ice cream will be served at 2.
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January 12th, 2011, 06:53 PM
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Last year for DS's first birthday I threw the party from 1 to 3, said please come for cake and ice cream to celebrate DS's birthday. It was a way to say without saying that there wouldn't be lunch served. I had a lot of snacks, and most people were Plus it was only family coming, but 31 people came, and I was 7 months pregnant and didn't want to throw a huge bash.
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January 12th, 2011, 07:12 PM
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I agree it is totally fine! I personally enjoy appetizers and snacks more than a meal!
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January 12th, 2011, 07:44 PM
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We have had one at 10am before which ran into lunchtime so we had a sausage sizzle. But we've found the easiest thing is to have it at 2/2.30 - we have plenty of cheese, crackers, punch etc, but no we don't provide a meal. When we did the sausage sizzle, we still had all the other food beforehand and then the bbq on top of that meant dh and I didn't actually sit down and relax and just enjoy the day with our 1yo!!!

ETA: I like what Alisha said too -if you have it close to a meal time, a nice way I think to make it clear that it's not a main meal with the 'please come from cake and icecream to celebrate'!
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January 13th, 2011, 07:02 AM
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That's what we do if the party is after lunch or before dinner.

In fact, that is our plan this time around. Jaxon's party will be from 2-4 pm. And I will just be serving cake and maybe fruit for the non sweet eating folks.

The only time I serve food is if I am doing a party around mealtime.

Don't stress about it. You do what is best for you guys. Some people go all out due to their culture and family tradition.

We only do bday parties when they are small. After they get about 5-6, we start letting them choose to go do something fun instead - their choice (within reason). My kids have choose to go to the zoo, the movies, Build a Bear workshop - stuff like that. And they LOVE it. I get to spend more money on them - not on a bday party decorations/etc.
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January 13th, 2011, 07:12 AM
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I'd specify on the invitation like others have said. My friend just did a party where she bought pizza at the jumping place for the kids but didn't buy it for the adults. She just told us ahead of time to get our own lunch because it was really expensive for crap pizza
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January 13th, 2011, 01:51 PM
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Christy- we have done that also with some of ours. We let ours pick between a party that they invite friends to or doing something special with just family. Surprisingly, they often choose to do something with just thier family. It's nice for the exact reason you mentioned.....not having to fork out $150 plus on a party means more to spend on them doing fun stuff.
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January 14th, 2011, 06:09 AM
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I plan on doing the same, for the same reasons, so I *think\hope* it's fine. I think everyone should understand, it's a kid's party, not an elaborate event...at least that's how I see it.

ETA: Unless you made it a potluck type of thing? IDK, just throwing ideas out...
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