My FIL, went home, now in nursing home

*AngieKH* · #1 April 7th, 2011, 07:34 PM

Jeff took his dad to the hospital again tonight. Earlier this week he started having more pain, from the cancer in his hip to his knee. Jeff called the doctor to get a pain prescription because Bob didn't want anyone to tell the doctor that he was hurting more. Jeff's mom, Marge ended up talking to Bob's family doctor (Jeff's cousin) and got a prescription for pain medicine. He took it one night, and slept well. Then he suddenly got sick, nauseated, didn't want to get out of bed. Not eating or drinking anything. Today when Jeff checked on him he still wasn't drinking or eating, so Marge called the doctor. He was out all day, sick himself, and his clinic didn't let him know that Marge was calling to find out what to do for Bob.

Turns out that Mark, the doctor, felt like Bob needed to be admitted to the hospital tonight, that waiting until tomorrow would be very bad. Jeff took him out there and got him admitted. Bob's PSA count was very high and Mark gave Jeff the impression that he might not be going home this time. He didn't say it though, so maybe it was just Jeff's feeling.

Marge isn't doing too well herself. Jeff had to make sure she was eating, and she was really out of breath trying to talk to him on the phone last night.

Please keep them both in your prayers.

KiwiMommy · #2 April 7th, 2011, 09:35 PM

Oh no! T&Ps to everyone!
KUP on how everything is! ((HUGS))

mommyto4navybrats · #3 April 8th, 2011, 09:00 AM

I'm so sorry...lots of thoughts and prayers for you!

Mommyto2Girls · #4 April 9th, 2011, 08:31 PM

My thoughts and prayers are with everyone involved. I know how hard it is to have a loved one affected by cancer.

*AngieKH* · #5 April 10th, 2011, 09:01 AM

Yes, it's one of the hardest things I ever went through, with my dad, and every time something happens with my FIL that is similar to Dad, it gets me.

Last night Bob was saying things that made no sense. We're not sure what caused that, but it was way different than how he's been up until now with his bad memory.

We should find out some more tomorrow when his doctor checks him.

mommyof3now · #6 April 10th, 2011, 09:04 AM

(((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))

I will say a prayer for him and your family

*AngieKH* · #7 April 12th, 2011, 12:12 PM

Bob went home yesterday. They just gave him a matter of days to live, but he wanted to go home to die. He had a rough night and Jeff's mom couldn't handle it. I don't quite understand why she can't sleep in the guest room or something, but Bob went to the nursing home today. It was his worst fear, but that's what has happened.

Mommyto2Girls · #8 April 12th, 2011, 12:28 PM

I am so sorry to hear this...why did they send him to a nursing home and not his home? I know when my grandmother was really sick with cancer she was adament about being in her home not the hospital or a nursing home.

*AngieKH* · #9 April 12th, 2011, 12:50 PM

He went home yesterday. That was what he wanted. He wanted to go home to die. My MIL didn't think she could handle it. They had a rough night, and today she said he needed to go to the nursing home. I don't really know why she didn't want him there, but he's pretty mad about it. He did agree to go if he could be in a single room, but he's not happy.

Mommyto2Girls · #10 April 12th, 2011, 01:30 PM

It's sad he can't be at home if that's what he really wants. I know it has to be hard for her to see him this way, but hopefully she will let him come home where he can be the most comfortable.

BellaAmor215 · #11 April 12th, 2011, 02:04 PM

My thoughts are with you and your family! I hope ultimately he gets his last wishes. DH's nana wanted to die at my MIL's home, which is where she felt the most at home. As uncomfortable and sad it was for MIL, she granted Nana her final wishes. But, I am so sorry you are going through this. I cannot imagine how hard it is for you and DH! I will keep you guys in my thoughts! Keep us posted!