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What age will you let or did you let your kids play outside alone? My older two are allowed to play in our fenced in yard out back alone. There isn't a pool or anything like that set up, and it is just their toys out there. I also have a huge window I can look out while they are playing. I don't let them play out front alone because I wouldn't be able to keep an eye on them from in the house.
My SDD is 7 and if she asked, i would let her play in the culdesac alone... (she doesnt like playing outside though). Our backyard isnt really safe bec/ its tiny, really sloped and theres a barbed wire fence that as put up by our neighbor so until we get a back fence thats off limits. We could see her very easily if she was out in the front. I think my age is about 7 for being in the front of the house where there could be the occasional car... if we had a fenced in back maybe a bit sooner
I'm not sure. I've let Lily play for a minute or two alone in our back yard (fully fenced, no water features, etc) but only while I've gotten her a drink, etc. I'm not comfortable letting her play alone outside right now, and definitely not Violet. Our neighborhood isn't that busy, but I wouldn't let either girl play out front alone until they're much older. At least age 7, if not older.
Never, until we have a bigger and fenced in yard. We live in the city and basically have no yard. I've run in the house to grab something once while the boys played in the back before and my heart was racing the entire time. Our street isn't that terribly busy, but it is still the city and it only takes one car.
I hope in a couple years at most we'll be able to move to a more suburban area with a fenced in yard, especially since we'll have a large dog, too.
Our kids are allowed in the fenced back yard by themselves (the younger two ONLY if the older two are also outside). We just recently began letting our 7 year old go to the park by himself. He has to go down the hill in the back yard and across one street. We live in base housing and it makes me a little more comfortable. I'm trying really really hard to not let my fears stunt my kids. I've read a lot of studies about how kids now a days aren't being allowed to do more "dangerous" stuff and it's stunting their emotional growth.
~Beth~ Wife to my Airman Chris, and mommy to: Anthony Nathaniel (8/31/04), Anastasia Fae (8/01/06), Baby C (lost on 10/12/07), David Cillian (7/31/08), Charles George (4/29/10), and Alan Christopher (2/22/12)
Beth, I grew up on an AF base and had so much freedom, it was awesome. I have such fond memories of living in that community and just feeling so safe being able to go to the park and the pool and the library by myself. Your kids are lucky!
I'm not quite ready for Kaija to go out in our backyard by herself yet. We have a 7 ft. tall privacy fence around our whole yard with no street access and she can't open the gate from the inside. There's nothing "dangerous" out there either. But she's really not okay being alone anywhere. I'll leave the girls out there together to run inside quickly. We also have no windows facing the main part of our yard. Our house/lot is laid out really weird, we also have no windows facing the front except in my bedroom. Our street despite being a dead end is way too busy to be playing out front alone.
Beth, I think that's an interesting thought, and it's probably true. In middle school I was allowed to ride my bike all over our small town. I was gone for hours. No cell phone. No nothing. I wouldn't dare let my girls do that now. I told Kaija she'd probably have to be 12 before I let her ride her bike alone to the library.
We have a backyard that is completely fenced with no water features outside at all. We have tons of windows all across the back of the house so I can see them totally crystal clearly at all times. So, I will let the twins on up go out by themselves anytime as long as I am downstairs and can watch them from the window. Bree can go out if older kids are out with her...poor Mia is too small though so she has to stay inside unless I'm out or one of the teenagers takes her out.
Kinley does not play outside by herself (we have a huge yard with a privacy fence) and will be a few years before I let that happen. I'm too much of a worry wart and have to know exactly where the girls are at all times!