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October 7th, 2012, 05:46 PM
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Do you plan to pay for your kids weddings, whole or part?
Do you have different thoughts boys verse girls when it comes to paying towards their wedding?
Did your parents help? Did Dh's parents help?
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October 7th, 2012, 06:24 PM
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Do you plan to pay for your kids weddings, whole or part? Yes, we plan to help. How much depends on the situation and most importantly if it's our son or daughter who's marrying.
Do you have different thoughts boys verse girls when it comes to paying towards their wedding? Yes. I think it's tradition for the girl's family to pay for the wedding and boy's family to help out on things such as the honeymoon, part of the flowers, the rehearsal dinner, etc.
Did your parents help? Did Dh's parents help? Yes, my parents paid for our wedding in full. DH's parents did not spend a dime that I'm aware of. He paid for the rehearsal dinner and our honeymoon on his own.
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October 7th, 2012, 06:44 PM
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Do you plan to pay for your kids weddings, whole or part? We'll help out as much as we can and of course we'd love to be able to pay for it in full if we have a daughter.
Do you have different thoughts boys verse girls when it comes to paying towards their wedding? Ditto to Megan here.
Did your parents help? Did Dh's parents help? DH and I had a shotgun wedding so no one had to pay We were 18 & 19 and neither of us ever wanted a wedding (I know I'm weird!). My dad did come and visit though and help furnish our apartment and gave us a very generous amount of money to get started on.
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October 7th, 2012, 07:16 PM
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Do you plan to pay for your kids weddings, whole or part? We would like to help, but just like with their education, we want them to be invested in it too. We want them to focus more on the marriage than the wedding though.

Do you have different thoughts boys verse girls when it comes to paying towards their wedding? No. I don't think it should matter if it is a boy or girl. We'll help evenly.

Did your parents help? Did Dh's parents help? My mom paid for our reception and a few other things. DH's parents paid for the rehearsal dinner and a few other small things. I don't remember the small things because it was over 10 years ago.
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October 7th, 2012, 07:40 PM
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Do you plan to pay for your kids weddings, whole or part? We've got savings set aside for them, but for bigger things than a day event... like medical, education and a house down payment once they are married or graduated from college (or both).

Do you have different thoughts boys verse girls when it comes to paying towards their wedding? No. I don't think it should matter if it is a boy or girl. We'll help evenly. *same as Kris* and we also will emphasize the marriage more than a wedding. There's SO MUCH you can do for an elegant, memorable wedding for (say) $2000 and use that other (say) $18,000 for a house downpayment. We are trying to teach our kids about simplicity and loving what we have and knowing that some of the best moments are free, as long as our families are there

Did your parents help? Did Dh's parents help? My dad gave us $500 for the wedding. DH's parents gave us $1000 as our wedding gift.

We still haven't had a honeymoon!
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October 7th, 2012, 08:08 PM
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Do you plan to pay for your kids weddings, whole or part? We'll probably do part.

Do you have different thoughts boys verse girls when it comes to paying towards their wedding? Yes -- the bride's family should definitely help the couple out.

Did your parents help? Did Dh's parents help? With the first wedding, my parents contributed some but his parents did not. (When he died though, my parents had me keep the money as there was no life insurance and I needed it to get by during those first few months). For the second wedding, DH and I paid for everything ourselves -- we were in our early 30s, had both had done this once before, and it just seemed completely normal to us that we would pay for everything ourselves.
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October 8th, 2012, 04:17 AM
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Do you plan to pay for your kids weddings, whole or part? We will for sure help but we do expect them to pay for some as well
Do you have different thoughts boys verse girls when it comes to paying towards their wedding? no, we will help with all weddings the same
Did your parents help? Did Dh's parents help? Both sides helped a lot
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October 8th, 2012, 06:15 AM
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Do you plan to pay for your kids weddings, whole or part? Help yes, but we will have our limits.
Do you have different thoughts boys verse girls when it comes to paying towards their wedding?Nope, I understand it is a tradition (girls family paying), but have never understood it. We will put in evenly with both kids I would imagine.
Did your parents help? Did Dh's parents help?Our wedding cost 3,000 and unfortunately, looking back almost 1,000 of that was on booze. But, we paid for everything except his parents paid for our reception hall rental. My family provided all the food, and we roasted a pig. I still have people tell me that our reception had the best food they have had at a wedding. Great memories for me! <3
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October 8th, 2012, 07:55 AM
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My family provided all the food, and we roasted a pig. I still have people tell me that our reception had the best food they have had at a wedding. Great memories for me! <3
This can be soooooo true! We have friends that got married right after their college graduation (they had dated all thru HS and college). Their reception was in a hall at a local park, families provided the food, drinks were cans of pop and beer and water bottles (self serve from coolers), plain old folding chairs and long tables. After eating the guys had to take some of the tables down for dancing. It was one of the funnest receptions I've been to and I didn't even really know anyone besides hubby (BF at the time).
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October 8th, 2012, 10:08 AM
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Do you plan to pay for your kids weddings, whole or part? Not really. Maybe I would help a bit but i don't find expensive weddings too necessary so I would not want to put to much towards something like that. There are more important things to help the kids out with I would think. Education etc.

Do you have different thoughts boys verse girls when it comes to paying towards their wedding? nah if Drake needed a reasonable amount i would help him.

Did your parents help? Did Dh's parents help? We got married almost overnight. We had a very small wedding in a little church. We did not really need to spend money. It always makes me feel good that we have been married almost 13 years and did not have some giant expensive affair to begin it LOL. I never feel like i missed out or anything.
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October 8th, 2012, 10:40 AM
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Sure I'd love to help, but unlike college, I'm not entirely sure it's something I'll start saving for anytime soon. As far as cost/what I will pay, I think it's all dependent on the situation. I might pay more for my daughter, especially if her fiance's family expected it, but I'd also be willing to pay evenly for Max or any other son's. I'll set limits and budgets, of course, and I think a lot of what I spend will be dependent on the situation.
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