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OMG... I am not sure what is going on but holy terror sometimes...
I don't know if it is just that Emmie & Jackson are so night in day or if it is because he is a boy or if there is something else going on but his behavior is unreal...
I would say he will scream, yell, hit, throw tempter tantrums, etc 75% of the time... i don't get it and I don't know what to do about it... i can pop him on the diaper, I can pop him on the leg and it does nothing... i do not want to continue with hitting him constantly but I really am at my witts end with this...
Melanie (me) - Thomas (DH) - Emmie (12-09-08) - Jackson (09-01-10)
Lucky & Booster - furbabies
Well I can tell you Drake is known for EXTREME. He has been since birth. I started with time outs. I put him in his room and shut the door for 2 minutes and he SCREAMED. Then I would open the door and ask if he was done. Alot of times he would say yes and come out much better. That quit working b/c now he likes time outs and puts himself in there LOL. But if he is screaming and won't stop it still helps and I will leave him in there over the 2 minute rule if need be. I tell him at that point he is in quiet time and he can not come back out till he is calm. Drake really listens though so I think that kind of thing just depends on the kid. I hope you find some relief but just know you are NOT alone LOL.
Same thing works for us. We put Milan in his room, sometimes in bed and tell him to calm down. If necessary, we will close his door. He mostly knows to stay in his room and come out when he is feeling in control of his emotions. I love this, as he learns to calm down on his own. The longest time it took him to calm down was around 20 minutes, then he came out and said, "daddy Milan is done ''. Hitting is an immediate time out as well.
We've been using a modified version of 1-2-3 Magic. When I get to "3", I ask her one last time if she's going to whatever the task is and if she doesn't do it, she goes to time out. For her, time out is being strapped into her booster chair in the middle of the kitchen facing the opposite wall -- she can't see us even though we're in the same area. I set the timer for two minutes and when it rings, she's usually much calmer. Hitting, spitting, and trying to run out of the front door are immediate time-outs.
Hitting, spitting, and trying to run out of the front door are immediate time-outs.
Can I just say I absolutely LOLed at the spitting part? I just can not imagine sweet Betsy spitting?
Overall Teresa is pretty calm, in terms of tantrums and such, she does get rowdy with the boys though!
I've never done a time out in a room/bed with kids (until Nathan recently) because I don't want to build a negative association with going to bed/going to sleep. For the occasional time outs we use the bottom step or sitting by the front door, which is in our living room/play area.