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January 29th, 2013, 02:52 PM
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What I found interesting is that I tend to show love through Gifts and Acts of Service. It's been difficult for me to try to change my way of thinking to best show him love!
That's a really important observation, Amy. I do the same. For instance, it's not a big thing, but I always make hubby's lunch for him or want to do things as a family (things that are MY language) but I suppose those don't always mean as much to him as other things might. I want to read the book now!
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January 29th, 2013, 03:43 PM
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That's a really important observation, Amy. I do the same. For instance, it's not a big thing, but I always make hubby's lunch for him or want to do things as a family (things that are MY language) but I suppose those don't always mean as much to him as other things might. I want to read the book now!
D and I had a big talk about this the other day. I make his lunch, too, and he tends to clean up dinner dishes. But he doesn't care if I DON'T make his lunch, and I don't mind cleaning up after dinner once Max is in bed, so even though we both FEEL like we are doing something for the other, the recipient doesn't necessarily feel "helped". So we are starting to focus on talking about things that really make us feel appreciated and also on noticing things the other does.
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January 29th, 2013, 09:52 PM
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Need to take the quiz and read it, for sure. Not sure what I'll be, but I can guarantee what Adam will be.
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January 30th, 2013, 01:33 PM
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Agree with Amanda, the questions to determine kinda stink... but really the whole concept is what's key to me. When Daniel and I do it we read the questions to each other and answer out loud, which is always kinda fun and opens up more realistic choices for us and dialogue that we typically wouldn't have.
The whole point is to better your relationships by speaking the other person's language! Such a wonderful concept. Often times what we do to show someone love isn't seen the same way through their eyes.
The book does a great job of going into detail on each language and ways to "speak" them!

Oh and you'd be surprised by physical touch! It's more than just sex for D! If I just place my hand on his back while he's cooking or initiate and grab his hand to hold it while we are out and about.... makes his DAY!
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January 30th, 2013, 04:42 PM
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Now I really wish we hadn't surrendered our library cards back in December! Although, this might be one of those cases where keeping a copy of a book is justified!
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January 30th, 2013, 08:48 PM
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Definitely justified! Ours are falling apart at the seams! We have two copies and have written all over both of them!! SPLURGE
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February 1st, 2013, 06:34 AM
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Kris, it's 7ish bucks on amazon. BUY IT!!! It opened up the door to save our marriage! I have all three books. Adults, teens and children. While Haddyn is too young Holden did great with taking the quizz and its helped a ton with him. He's a gifts boy so a simple drawing for him makes the world a dreamworld for him .

I am acts of service and morts words of affirmation.

I think everyone alive should have this book!
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February 3rd, 2013, 03:49 PM
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Oh yay! I am so glad y'all are liking talking to your DH and SO about all this. Kelli - John said the same thing about the Touch. He said, "You have no idea what a hug can do for me. It can make my entire day turn around."

My family was NEVER touchy so Amy, I feel you with changing how to show love. It's been hard and out of my comfort zone AND when things get stressful I forget. That's why we had to revisit this the other week. We've been pretty about it since.
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February 3rd, 2013, 08:09 PM
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^ Amanda!! Same for us! I came from a very non-touchy family so it's so hard for me to remember to initiate those kinds of things!
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February 3rd, 2013, 08:54 PM
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I have read this book a long time ago.
Me: Acts of service
DH: Touch

I don't remember what the kids were I will have to see
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