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We're at that crossroads -- she's not a baby but she's still not a true big kid. But sometimes we tell her that she's a big kid ("Use your words and don't whine -- you're a big kid now") and sometimes we have to tell her that she's not big enough ("You can't go down that slide because you're too little."). Tonight she made it crystal clear that she was a big kid when she pushed my hand away and put the toothpaste on her own toothbrush.
How do you encourage the independence and celebrate the accomplishments but at the same time, gently remind them that they're still little? I mean, how do you go from "Yay! Big kids go on the potty and you just did!!!!!" to "You're still too little to walk without holding my hand".
Awww... Amy! I'm in the same boat. I just let him dictate when he needs my help and when he can do it by himself. When it comes to things like holding hands in the parking lot, I tell him he's a big kid, but he's still too little for cars to see and they can see me, so he has to hold my hand to make us even BIGGER! He likes the idea of being bigger
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If there is something he can probably do himself, I do my best to try to let him (this is such a lesson in patience for me, since I keep thinking it's faster if I just do it myself). He gets very upset when I tell him he isn't big enough/old enough to do something. "No! I am bigger!" In those cases, I tell him he has to be as big as daddy (like when he wants to buy a lighter at the gas station ).
The hardest is when Sammy can do something that he can't (like go on her field trip the other day). Since size wise he IS bigger, he doesn't really get that he isn't as "big" or as old as she is. We just try to emphasize that Sammy is older, and when he is 4 he can do it to (which he usually replies with heart wrenching cries of "I 4, mama! I 4!!"). And then he just doesn't get to do whatever it is. I guess he'll figure it out eventually?
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I try to avoid telling him he is too little for something because I think it makes him upset. They only thing I say that for is the giant jungle gym\slide at the park, I always tell him that is for big kids and that Dada can help him try it next time they are at the park, but mommy cant climb that high. Otherwise if he wants to grab my coffee or pop I tell him those drinks are for grown ups.
I have been trying to encourage him to do things himself as much as possible, like feeding himself, putting on socks, brush teeth etc. After I had my baby (now 9 months old) I noticed Joey getting lazy with stuff and wanting me to feed him and I think it is all about attention. So Im really trying to give him more attention and praise for the stuff he does on his own.