[CartersMommy]

So today I went to the pool with my best friend and her son. We have been friends all our life. She has 2 sisters and 2 brothers all who either have kids our age are pregnant or want to have more kids. Well my best freinds sister met up with us at the pool. When we were talking about my pregnancy she asked if I had names picked out yet. I said 'yes we are 95% sure' but we are not telling! She said well I love the names Bryce and Owen and I really hope no one uses them they are on 'her husband and her list'. I just sat there. Owen is our name......... I did not know what to do so I just moved on. My best freinds family are really sensitive about things like this IMO, my best freind called to ask me if it was ok with me if she registerd for a few of the same things on her registry as I had on mine with DS when she was prego with her DS... my reply "register for what YOU want, Babies R US only has SO much stuff we are not going to avoid getting nothing alike".

I was going to text my best freind and tell her that one of the names her sister said today was the name we chose for our son, that we did not want her to feel like we stole it out from under her but our heart is set on it. Do you think I should? Or should I just let it go and let her think whatever she wants to on delivery day when we announce it.

BTW her sister just has a little girl, said she wants to wait at least another year to TTC and who knows if she would even get a boy.....

[Cranberry]

I would talk to her about it and be honest from the get-go if you guys are really close. It will definitely take the edge off for her..! And if she gets her nose bent out of joint, she has months to get over it.

[AprylLynn]

i agree just be honest with her and tell her that is the name you were going to use. its your lil one name as you please. i think its an adorable one

[~April~]

This is a fear of mine and why I let my names known so even if it is stolen, it is still mine. I hope she is not upset and I'm sure that she will get over it if she is.

[Mommy2Aiden]

Be honest. She'll get over it.

I'd just talk to her and be honest about it, like the other ladies said. I mean... it's your best friend's sister. I don't see the big deal, myself...

[Crafty Mama]

Wait, so she's not pregnant? For some reason I was thinking she was, until I got to the very last part. Personally, I don't think I'd say anything in that situation. You already said you had a name picked out, and you're 95% sure of it, so chances are, she'll be understanding. It might require an explanation later on, telling her that you had this name picked out before she had told you. But honestly, if someone told me that they had a name picked out for their future child, and they hadn't even conceived it, I wouldn't really take their feelings into consideration. I think it's wrong to name steal (because really, who wants to pick out a name, and then have someone close to you name their kid the same thing weeks/months before you have your child), but in this case, I don't think you would be accused of it.

[NiKA]

I would just mention that it was the name you were thinking of.
I just think in the long run it will give you less explaining later on...HTH

[missnicky79]

I would send the text, especially if she and her family are sensitive about stuff like this, plus you will get it off your chest, you can move on and she will get over it

[TanyaZ]

yeah i would probalby mention to her that you guys chose a name ages ago and only just now found out its a name that she likes. You are only using the one name she likes, so theres no reason why she couldnt still use the other name. She might be alittle annoyed but she'll get over it

[MomtoParker]

I would say something, but I wouldn't worry too much. This is YOUR child and you can name him whatever you want. If this is the name that you have set your heart on, then that is the name that you should go with for your baby. She said that she liked another name, too, so she can go with that one!

Good luck! I know that it is stressful, but do what you feel like would be best for you.

[blessedx7]

I would definitely talk to her about it now rather than have it be the elephant in the room during a time you don't want any additional stress.

[Miracle BabyBlessing]

She isn't even pregnant and thus she can't lay claim to a name. I would just say something like everyone said and if she gets mad oh well. Even if she was pregnant, you could still use the same name. Happens a lot!

[lauraleaf]

I would just tell her we already picked that name and let her deal with it! And it's not like she actually created a name and said "If I ever have a baby I'm naming her Queentessa" which might actually seem "stolen" if a friend used it too...it's OWEN. Not as popular as Jacob or Michael but still a pretty popular name! It's not like I would get mad if someone I knew named their daughter Emily.

[tammilou]

I would say something to your best friend too. Just so it doesn't cause drama when your baby is born. And its not like you are having twin boys and using both the names she likes.

[Jennyt13]

She has TWO names - she can always use the other one I don' think it was fair of the sister to do that, especially since your not pregnant. Basically, what she is tell you - is although you won't tell me what the names are - if they are one of these - change it.

That's seriously childish of her.

[horseradishmayo]

she's not even pregnant?? use it!

[jamie7]

I would tell her! Chances are her names will change anyway by the time she is prego. Better now then after the baby is born!

[Sarah7181]

WOW, all the fighting over Owen! lol My friend and I had this same discussion over names last weekend! haha She wants Owen for her son.. after she and her fiance tie the knot and get pregnant. lol I had told her our boy name. I did tell her that the kdis would be farther apart in age, and that I was fine with her using the name for her son too! I'd send that text message, so that she knows up front. But don't change your name. I figure, the one preggo first with a boy gets first dibs. Who knows if she ever has a boy.

[Erikajo]

I would still use Owen! You are pregnant with a boy NOW! She is not. She can't lay claim to a name when she's not even expecting. If you were both pregnant at the same time and she named her son Owen, then I might hesitate to use it, but not in this case. I would just talk to her and be honest. Tell her you had no idea it was on her "list" but you've picked the name. If she's truly a good friend, she'll get over it! Plus, she may change her mind later anyways - that's IF she has a boy! I've had names I loved before and have changed them.