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Im so sorry about all this nonsense. He is being ridiculous.
My husband used to do that "cant come right now" thing when we was playing WoW, cause he was doing raids with groups of people and if he left it **** everyone up... and I put my foot down. I said that he can play all the video games he wants but he always has to be able to come away from them. So now he still plays WoW, but doesnt raid and is always able to come away from them.
As for the cat.... ANY intelligent person will back you up on that one. So just ignore him.... he cant use it in court or anything against you cause its total BS. Just an Old Wives Tale.
I'm sure you're starting to feel better now that you've typed it out loud and see that you have lots of support here!! I think the cat situation has already been covered - that's just him being an idiot and trying to make you feel guilty for something, seeing he probably feels guilty about everything - and he should!! As far as being separated - no one should have to deal with the stress and complications of it while being pg. At least you have strong support living next door! Stay strong and don't stoop to his level being petty and ridiculous. Hold your ground and do what is best for you and your son. Feel guilty about nothing and stay strong. And as far as custody goes - I agree that you should meet with a lawyer ASAP and get that all ironed out before your son is born. Good luck!
Thank you ladies for all of your support. It does make me feel better just to say things out loud (in type?) Your support means the world to me, just to have other women who are also pregnant to vent to. Thanks for being there.
you might be along physically but not emotionally. we are all here for you to vent to and offer support / guidance whatever you need.
if he wasnt there before..a baby would not make him there now. talk to a lawyer and find out options now. dont mention to him that you are talking to anyone! dont give him fuel. document everything!!! dates and everything.
The video game thing: Typical of men...except if there were an emergency, my dh would get his ***** up and move!
Trash thing: men again...Normal. Except my dh WILL do it or I'll make sure his life sucks.
The cat thing: I have NO idea! I have 2 cats, no one ever ate any babies before, and I doubt they care about human milk. In fact, I am leaky now and my TWO cats (one being a kitten) just snuggle with me here and there (otherwise run away from me) and not surprisingly, do NOT try to drink my milk. lol
One of the cats HATES kids and hides from them when they are awake. The other one is friendly, and will come around and play. Weird how he thinks kittens have the idea to eat children...........
Sorry you are dealing with this nonsense!
Mom to many
1 Girl 2011 and 1 Boy 2013. Their family is COMPLETE!
He is the failure not you... I would go see a lawyer... iron out the details and take care of yourself and the baby... I know that is easier said than done but look out for yourself and talk to a lawyer so that you are legally know your rights and so that you and the baby are taken care of... clearly he is not dealing with a full deck using the cat as leverage against you... it is displaced anger and he is grasping at straws to pick an argument with you....