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So i havnt been on for awhile due to mt dd being really sick with fifths virus which im pretty sure she gave to me! im a little worried b\c apparently it can be passed to the baby. not sure what to do. anyone have this before?? also, im wondering if its just me and my relationship or is nyone else super ****** to theyre hubby?? i feel angry all the time and i just feel like yelling at him for everything!! unfortunately i made the mistake of fighting infront of my daughter whos now picking up what i say and is saying the same things to my hubby! not good! i feel bad but i cant help my anger. is anyone going through this or should i be considering seperation or anger management??? help!!!!!!!! im sure all this negativity isnt good for baby either im scared im gonna have another miscarriage from the stress.
Sorry you are going throgh this. My husband and I fight A LOT when I am pregnant. Most of the day today actually I feel the same way as you. I am constantly irritated with him. Although I do not think that I am unreasonable, I think our pregnant hormones just get out of control. Try taking a walk when you want to argue.
Okay, you sound like you are overwhelmed with stress and hormones. My suggestion would be to call and ask to be seen by your OB or midwife for the virus. They can give you advice and/or treat you.
As for hubby, you might consider therapy of some sort or a class at either a church or community group where you can learn how to say things that you feel you need to stay in a less aggressive way. You are so right that it is a problem that your daughter will (or already has picked up). But, just know this may not be something that is wrong with your marriage. Hormones can make us insanely angry or moody or weepy... They play games with our normal rationality. I would not make any rash decisions while pregnant or even for six months to a year after having the baby. You may not be thinking clearly. If you cannot find a class or doctor to help you with your anger issues, ask your OB or midwife for suggestions. Your family deserves all your effort to resolve what is going on, and I think you feel that way, or you wouldn't be concerned.
KUP! I hope everything works out. If you need to talk privately too, you can pm me. So sorry you are going through so much right now.
I agree with the PP about seeing your OB or midwife. Even your general doctor can treat this for you.
As for the anger and yelling at your husband some of it may be hormones and some of it may be something more serious. You can also talk to your doctor about this or like the PP suggested go to counseling to try and work out your problems.
I'm sorry you are so overwhelmed and stressed out!! I know I am more irritable with my hubby, I don't necessarily yell at him but I get mad and give him looks (which he hates) and I do snap at him here and there, but we haven't really fought in awhile (which is great for us). Some women get more hormonal than others during pregnancy so all yours may just be from your hormones from the pregnancy. I agree with the other ladies, you should talk to a dr about the virus and about your hormones. They may be able to help you find a class, counselor or maybe even prescribe some meds if that's what it takes. But we are always here for you if you need us hun!
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Thank you so much for all the support, i talked with hubby lastnight and feel a bit better. I think ill still talk to my Doc. though. we agreed to not argue or fight in front of dd anymore so thats a start. ill KUP.