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OK so, my dad is in Kuwait right now. He comes home on leave in August and that is when some of my family will be here (to visit him) that wouldn't usually make the trip. I will be around 27-28 weeks when they are here.
My question is, pending his response on whether he wants to attend or not, is that too early to have a baby shower? I am very close with my dad and feel horrible that he will not be here for the birth of his first grandchild and wont get to see her until she is 3-4 mos old. I feel like I should try to involve him with this...or should I just wait it out and hope he doesn't care?
I personally think that's the perfect time, between 26 and 30 weeks. That way you still have enough time if you're working to set aside money for things you didn't get. You also don't want to be too big and uncomfortable around people, you know?
It's not too early at all. When i was pregnant with DS, I was due in Nov and had my shower in early August. We did mine then because my family lives 600 miles away and that was the last time I was going to be with all my family before I couldn't travel any more.
Elizabeth, mommy to Judge and Zavier, and crossing fingers for an Ellen Paige this December!
I think that's the perfect time, especially since your father will be there to visit with your dad, so that way more of your family will be there. I think your dad will want to go. My dad was at my baby shower, plus it'll be a special time to spend with you especially since he won't be here for the birth!!
I think that would be an awesome time. If anyone says anything (and one would hope they don't) just point out that all your family will be together then.
I did have one at 27-28 weeks with #2. I had high BP and we were afraid of another preemie. My friend felt bad because she never ended up throwing me a shower with my first. So she was happy to do it early. No one said anything but my ex inlaws.... But they had issues with anything related to me, so....
I would love to have my shower (SO's first) at 28-30 weeks. It is so much easier to have them earlier. You are less tired and it gives you a chance to enjoy it more. Plus you have plenty of time still to get what you still need for the baby.
Proud mama to:
Clark 6/07 ~ 1lb 13oz. @ 28 weeks
Tyke (Karl) 8/08 ~ 8lbs 3oz @ 39 3/4 weeks
Pork (Laurence) 9/09 ~ 8lbs 3oz @ 36 1/2 weeks
2 angels in heaven 10/06 and 01/11
I think it is fine. I didn't have mine with DS until like 32 and 34 weeks, but I see no reason to not have it earlier. Especially with the circumstances! I think it is much better to have it at like 28 weeks than to wait and do 38 (that is what a cousin of mine did!).
I think it would be awesome, bc then your dad will get to be a part of it. Having been deployed myself, and having had my dad be deployed before, I think if he couldn't be there to see much of the pregnancy/the birth he would feel honored to be there. It would be very special to him especially since ya'll are close! Good luck and tell him to stay safe over there!!!
I think it is the perfect time. It leaves lots of time for you to buy anything you still need that you didn't get as a gift and I think it will be a great way for your Dad to stay connected and feel involved.