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  #1  
June 17th, 2011, 08:38 PM
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How is it going in that department in your house?

Theres is NO sex going on over here... DH doesnt want to (wow talk about feeling unsexy, huh?)
He has a whole list of reasons: Doesnt want to hurt me, its "weird" because the baby is there, and heres the best of them all: he has a newfound respect for me because im the mother of his child now so he cant f*ck me like a porn star anymore.
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June 17th, 2011, 08:59 PM
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I just don't want to because then the next 12 hours are followed with extremely uncomfortable and often painful contractions that lead to NO dilation. Now that I'm 37 weeks though we may start doing it more. It is very uncomfortable though.
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June 17th, 2011, 08:59 PM
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So funny, I was just thinking about posting a sex thread! I am mainly having issues because DH is all for it, and I'm losing interest fast. I still think about it and what not, but with the swollen crotch, constant kicking from the baby, and the general exhaustion, I'm just not motivated or energetic enough to go there. I told him as much but he will persevere. Honestly, I think he is just trying to get in whatever he can before the required post-partum break!
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June 17th, 2011, 09:05 PM
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Waiting til the 21st when zodiac sign turns from Gemini to Cancer to piss off SO.. ;D LOL. I don't wanna risk putting myself into labor from DTD before then >:] Bwahahaha!
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June 17th, 2011, 09:13 PM
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Waiting til the 21st when zodiac sign turns from Gemini to Cancer to piss off SO.. ;D LOL. I don't wanna risk putting myself into labor from DTD before then >:] Bwahahaha!

Sounds like a good plan

Im a cancer...and us cancers are pretty cool
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June 17th, 2011, 09:17 PM
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well at first DH didnt want to b/c he was afraid..he said at 37 weeks we could so we could try to start labor..ya uh thats exactly the time my body gave up on me and i started swelling and am now in soo much pain on bed rest..looks like it wont be happening any time soon..and man do i miss it! lol!
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June 17th, 2011, 09:25 PM
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Dh is usually gone for two or three days/nights with work. He comes home and leaves the next day. So we squeeze in what we can then. More for his sake than mine!
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June 17th, 2011, 09:34 PM
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DH was like that with our first baby, we didn't have sex for months before I delivered! DD #2 was better and this one it's not as frequent as being non pregnant but we have sex at least 2 times a week.
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June 18th, 2011, 04:53 AM
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nutting going on here...he thinks its odd and the baby will know whats going on?!? hehe
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June 18th, 2011, 05:14 AM
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The water is running dry in my house. Dammit midwife for putting me on pelvic rest. That's not to say that I don't want it though because I really do. It's just Andy refuses to because it was the midwife's order. I'm hoping maybe I can get something out of him when I feel that it is safe for Jackson to come.
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June 18th, 2011, 05:17 AM
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Our stupid L and D visit 2 weeks ago ruined sex for Dh... Now he doesn't want to because he doesn't want the baby to come early He has a tough schedule this month and if baby comes, he's going to screw a bunch of people over... So he really wants baby to wait till July....

He's SO considerate... But what about ME?!?! I want baby out!!

Lately we've just been fooling around a little... but it's not the same :S I want to have REAL sex
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June 18th, 2011, 05:23 AM
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Ugh. I miss nonpreggo sex soooo much! It's pretty uncomfortable now and we are obviously very limited in the position department. Anyone have any favorite position suggestions?

Mine was spooning on our side with him behind, but DH has had his lung collapse twice and this position has been causing him extreme chest pain! It also gets pretty awkward if my belly touches him in any way because he can then feel his daughter move around. Me - Yes, I know sweetheart. Why do you think I have been uninterested in sex for months??

I pretty much am NEVER in the mood, but I instigate sex in hopes to kick start labor. Obviously it hasn't worked yet, though!
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June 18th, 2011, 05:49 AM
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sex really isn't that different than before pregnancy, besides the fact that I am no longer very limber and we are lacking on positions that are comfortable with this big belly. DH doesn't get freaked out over the baby being in my tummy at all, actually he thinks the belly is really sexy which makes me feel super good! After we make love it gives us a chance to snuggle and feel our little squirmier move around. The only thing that gets in the way is how busy DH's job is keeping him and how tired he gets. Doesn't help that I am tired all the time too. But we are still making an effort, plus semen is a natural prostaglandin, so I'm hoping it might help my cervix get ready for birth if we keep it up.
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June 18th, 2011, 05:51 AM
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Sex is my least favorite thing about pregnancy and what I'm looking forward to doing again the most when it's over! We still try, but it's usually either painful, or when it's not I get too uncomfortable because my back/hips/whatever starts hurting so we have to change positions and then it gets painful :/ I usually end up having to stop, which is frustrating for both of us. Although pretty soon I'm just going to suck it up (not literally ) and keep going anyway in hopes of getting things moving x)
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June 18th, 2011, 05:51 AM
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we have been on a sex break since last time we dtd around 32 weeks I think. Had so many contractions/crampiness for like 12 hours afterwards. We made the decision given the fact I had preterm labor at 34 weeks with Sarah, to hold off until 36 or 37 weeks and then I will dtd anytime he wants it after that..lol. My poor DH, I think he has had it maybe 4 times this whole pregnancy (and 2 of those times were the same night), because I have had NO sex drive whatsoever!
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June 18th, 2011, 06:51 AM
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Funny you mention it! We have fallen into a once a week routine lately due to bf's and my schedules not lining up very well.

But I actually told him now that I am 37 weeks I expect we DTD every night and he agreed. We did last night but some positions were super uncomfortable.
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June 18th, 2011, 06:55 AM
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NO sex going on over here...several reasons why some personal and then some are just excuses...I am just planning to get me some good action when I am good and ready after Hailey comes.
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June 18th, 2011, 07:11 AM
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Me in America + DH in Afghanistan=Nothing going on here for months...
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June 18th, 2011, 07:35 AM
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Hubby actually finds my new roly poly look really sexy. Which I find very odd. But I appreciate tremendously... so if it were up to him we would be doin it like bunnies...

But JoJo has a tendency of being VERY active during naughty time... which makes it a lil hard for me to get in the mood.. So we have been doing it... but not a ton.


But now, hubby has noticed that sex tends to give me really bad contractions the next day... so he doesnt want to do it till I am 37 weeks... We'll see how long that lasts
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June 18th, 2011, 07:44 AM
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I'm clumsier than a fourteen year old boy removing a girl's bra for the first time. Not such a great way to set the mood.

We work at it, and if it doesn't light up the sky or anything I try to just laugh it off. I find the extra blood flow makes me rather tender so nothing can last very long. I do feel a bit guilty not being able to be GGG all the time. Seriously, this fatigue and my hormones and above-mentioned awkwardness don't really add up to that many opportunities...
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