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September 30th, 2011, 11:52 AM
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I feel like with the addition of 2 more children (have a son from previous marriage), I feel like my hubby and I don't have fun anymore. We are like roommates. I am always tired and usually go to bed after my kids do because that is the only time I find that I can relax and read. We don't have much in common as far as television goes. What does everyone do to keep the ol' flame burning? We just celebrated our 5 year anniversary in July so we should still be feeling the spark. I am not a nympho at all!!! My libido is pretty much non-existent but I really crave for us to be fun like when we were dating.....Anybody have special things you do with your man? I hate feeling so distant from my DH.
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September 30th, 2011, 12:50 PM
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Can you guys pick some movies that you would both like and watch them together after the kids go to bed? Can you ask him to do something silly like paint your toenails? ( they might not turn out the greatest) Maybe ask him to wrestle? Can you make his favorite dessert or ice cream sundaes or something to have together after the kids are down? Play a competitive game of cards? I know these all sound a bit silly but sometimes it just takes doing something toghether that you haven't done in a while.
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September 30th, 2011, 03:40 PM
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I could have wrote this post myself. I have no advice for you. But DH & I both know these days of having young, very dependent kids are short & we'll eventually have time for each other again Until then our focus is on the kids. It can suck sometimes though & I definitely feel like we're roommates.
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September 30th, 2011, 03:51 PM
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Honestly? DTD more, even if you aren't in the mood. I usually don't want to at first, but I start having fun within 5 minutes and I ALWAYS feel better/closer/happier/whatever after.
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September 30th, 2011, 04:23 PM
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My emotions towards my husband aren't great right now. Lots of anger and resentment and distrust so I have no advice except to say a big ditto to Leah if you can find the time It really does help.
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October 1st, 2011, 01:03 AM
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We did Dance Central on Xbox Kinect the other night and were laughing the pics and video playbacks it does. We basically were just silly. We are DTD more, I even initiated the other night which he loved. We cuddle on the couch even if he is watching something i don't like, we play cards or board games together. We're going on a date tomorrow night possibly which we love so we can just go to a nice dinner, have a few drinks, talk & catch a movie. We love to cuddle at the movies! Tonight watching a movie he kissed the palm of my hand and said I U which is our new thing. That's how our 2yr old says I love you.
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October 1st, 2011, 06:18 AM
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I am sooooo not in the mood and I blame BFing. I do it anyway but not very often. Like once a week maybe. But we have had 3 week gaps also. I want things to get back to normal..... but sometimes sleep feels sooo muchj better!! lol
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October 1st, 2011, 07:19 AM
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Aww we had our 5 yr ann in july too...the 28th. Me and John are just goofy all the time. I tickle him, we wrestle, sex helps....we see each other MAYBE 2 hrs a day due to his job, so between the job and 2 kids its tough to have alot of time together...but i make the time we DO have together good times
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October 1st, 2011, 08:06 AM
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I was not in the mood for a few months and I really think it had a lot to do with the mini-pill. I stopped taking it 4 days ago and woke up actually wanting to DTD this morning. And it was more amazing than it has been in a while. I think those hormones were suppressing my sex drive and making me a total ******, because we have been getting along a lot better since I have stopped taking it. Maybe its hormones that are causing this, in addition to the stress of the kids? If not, just ignore me lol, all I have to go in is my own experience.
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October 2nd, 2011, 10:01 PM
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definitely need a date night.... it feels great when we can just go out to dinner and have a couple hours to ourselves!

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I was not in the mood for a few months and I really think it had a lot to do with the mini-pill. I stopped taking it 4 days ago and woke up actually wanting to DTD this morning. And it was more amazing than it has been in a while. I think those hormones were suppressing my sex drive and making me a total ******, because we have been getting along a lot better since I have stopped taking it. Maybe its hormones that are causing this, in addition to the stress of the kids? If not, just ignore me lol, all I have to go in is my own experience.
i totally agree that the hormones in any of the pills kill the urge! even in my late teens with no kids I didn't have much desire, but every time I'm without the pill I'm usually trying to make sure we dtd very frequently! I got upset with dh a couple weeks ago because I was ready for more and he was exhausted
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October 3rd, 2011, 07:42 AM
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John & I make it a point to DTD everyday. Yea, im tired as heck sometimes, but honestly, it makes everything better. We also play around a lot. He tickles me, we play wreslte, I chase him around the house etc.
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October 3rd, 2011, 03:23 PM
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I am sooooo not in the mood and I blame BFing. I do it anyway but not very often. Like once a week maybe. But we have had 3 week gaps also. I want things to get back to normal..... but sometimes sleep feels sooo muchj better!! lol
My poor dh....he is def waaaay deprived...esp from what he was used to getting!!
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