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February 7th, 2012, 04:47 PM
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Well, we have been noticing things with B are not quite right. She has now been to see several specialist and it has been confirmed she has some deformity in her whole lower body, but no real diagnosis or treatment plan yet. They have an MRI scheduled. I'm so worried, I mean we all want perfect, happy kids, and to hear your child may never walk is hard.

To top that off my in laws are raising a stink. You see my mother keeps B every day while my husband and I work, and my mother in law doesn't like this. But she is not fit to babysit her for multiple reasons, including being very mentally unstable. We received a call last night informing us that my in laws feel they are being short changed and need a weekly schedule time "to do something with B," um we meet once a week for dinner and offer to let you hold her, what more do you want? I'd love to offer more, but they have to be 100% supervised with her, and on top of that both my husband and I are working 50+ hrs a week right now. No that isn't ideal, but we have to pay the bills. When my husband explained how short on time we are, my FIL told him it was silly I was working, and that I should not be working. UGH, why doesn't he pay our bills then! I just wish they would butt out of our personal lives a bit, I understand they want to see their grandchild and I'm trying but there is only so much time in the day. For example, we had them over for a super bowl party, neither one ever picked the baby up, and they were here, with her awake, for 5 hours! I thought I was providing them a great opportunity to play with her, but they didn't take it. Ugh sorry I'm tired, and frustrated!
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February 7th, 2012, 05:36 PM
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HUGS!!!!! I'm so sorry to hear that news! Hope things turn out for the better with the MRI - please KUP. I'll keep you and your LO is my T&P's!

No fun with in-law problems! I totally see why you'd be frustrated - Hope things settle down with them. Did you explain to them that you had them over and they chose not to hold her? Don't let them worry you by what they say, nor feel guilty for not being a SAHM - there are bills and not everyone can - I'm sure you're a great mom and you are doing what's best for your family!
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February 7th, 2012, 08:12 PM
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{{hugs}} I hope you get a diagnosis soon--it's hard enough dealing with a problem with your baby but not even knowing what exactly is wrong At least with Isabelle, I know what to research and am somewhat prepared for what's coming
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February 8th, 2012, 07:50 AM
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Oh, I'm so sorry! That's too bad. Hopefully you'll get answers soon.

As far as the in-laws go, I think it's ridiculous that they're piling on when you're already upset. That's just incredibly insensitive and self-centered, in my opinion.
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February 8th, 2012, 08:14 AM
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I think In-Laws were invented to give us a headache I am so sorry they are being such pains in the butt. It sounds like you are doing everything you can do offer her time with her granddaughter and that is all you can do. If she makes a stink about it again, bring up the superbowl and how you did not see her interacting with your daughter and therefore assume she does't need MORE time to ignore her. My in-laws are kinda like that in that regard. They make a lot of noise about wanting to see the boys...and then when they do, they might say three or four words to them and ignore them the rest of the time. Forget picking them up or getting them something either. I think they love the idea of them, but the reality of their needs is still overwhelming. Hope they chill out about it.

And sorry to hear about your daughter's legs. Hopefully they will provide some answers and direction with the MRI. We all do want our children to be perfect...but they still are even with their issues. She is perfectly who she was meant to be Keep us posted about how things go!
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February 8th, 2012, 06:37 PM
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Hugs! That all sounds awful! Why do they complain if they don't take advantage and hold her when you do have her with them?
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February 8th, 2012, 08:02 PM
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My in-laws are kind of the same way, DH's mom and step-dad anyway. The go on all "oh Maddie we love you so much, you're nanna's baby, you're poppy's world, we just can't go without seeing you" and all this other stupid crap and they put stupid fake gushy stuff like this on FB all the time and his mom complains that she never gets to see her, but do you know how many times they have come to the house to see her? I can count them on one hand and she is over 4 months old now! I just hate all the fake crap that she goes on about. If you really wanted to see her that much you would! Nobody's stopping you! And by the way they live like 15 min. away so it's not like they have to drive across the country or anything!
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February 9th, 2012, 06:42 AM
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Your in-laws sound like idiots. I'm super sorry about B, and will be hoping everything turns out alright. You're doing a great job, so don't let anyone make you feel bad.
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