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August 16th, 2012, 10:05 AM
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Ok so Riley started clapping yesterday. And I was so excited and posted a short video on FB to which my MIL called me immediately after I posted it and was screaming "OMG I Taught her that! She is doing patty cake!!!!" Seriously? I really wanted to say "You didn't teach her anything since you did Patty cake with her a week ago and she wouldn't do it and all she is doing is clapping." But me being the nice person that I am just agreed.

Then she calls me today and asks what I want to do for "HER BABY'S 1st Birthday"...again, every time she blurts out "my baby" I cringe and remind her that it is her GRANDBABY. So I continued the conversation on and told her that I really wanted it to be just a small get together with cake and ice cream. Small as in My parents, brother, Brandon and his parents and brothers. That's it. Because I wanted to do it at my parents house (where Riley and I live) or if I am in my own place at my apartment. This sent her over the edge of the cliff. Apparently, for any child's birthday in the family, it has to be a big to do. Meaning, her 4 sisters, their kids and grandchildren (Riley's 2nd cousins), her husbands family, his sister/husband/niece, parents etc. Let me put it into perspective guest list wise... 56 people. Not including Riley, Brandon and I. That is outrageous. I don't have a whole lot of money and Danielle is saying we should rent a hall. WTH. Why should I rent a hall for a first birthday. She wont remember it. A first birthday is more for the parents to celebrate that they got through the first year with out killing each other, selling the baby to a traveling circus or otherwise just going insane.

I digress...Just thinking about this whole thing has made my blood pressure go up. All those people would more than likely freak poor Ry out rather than make her happy. I honestly just don't know what to do or how to go about the situation without screaming bloody murder at this woman. I know that she means well, but I am not a big party person. The smaller the group the better. Do I just tell her that she can plan whatever party she wants and then look like the bad mom to her whole family because I don't want a big party so she had to plan one? I don't see anything wrong with a small get together with immediate family.

HELP!!!!!!! Sorry for the long post my fingers were just burning and kept typing.

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August 16th, 2012, 10:16 AM
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Just smile and nod for her and then do what you want to do. There's no need to invite people you don't want to invite!
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August 16th, 2012, 10:17 AM
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I totally agree with you about having a small get together with family instead of a big party. She needs to stop overstepping boundaries and realize that Riley is YOUR daughter and not hers. Just because you want a smaller party doesn't mean you are a bad mom at all. I hope everything works out.
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August 16th, 2012, 05:56 PM
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I totally agree with you and Rachel. Just tell your MIL hey look this is how we are going to do it and this is how my husband and I want it done. Do it your way anyways and shell just have to deal with it lol.
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August 17th, 2012, 12:38 PM
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Agreed, keep it small if that's what you want.
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August 17th, 2012, 04:30 PM
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It's so frustrating when people think they have control over things that are none of their business! I agree- do the party how you want it!
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August 21st, 2012, 09:07 AM
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Yep just smile and nod, and do it the way you want. It's your kid, not hers.
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