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October 14th, 2012, 05:15 PM
CoreenaC's Avatar Carter-Carter's Momma
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I've felt so frumpy and fat and disgusting and have been so depressed lately. Carter's almost 14 months old and I'm wearing the same size pants I was before having him but have lost 20 pounds from pre-pregnancy.

Anyway, Carter and I are going to a religious assembly next weekend and I wanted to a dress, I haven't worn a dress in years, usually stick to shirts and skirts but those don't fit right since my body has changed so much. Today we were at the mall and stopped by Motherhood maternity. The amazing sales lady pulled nursing dresses for me to try on and DH grabbed me some nursing bras. I haven't had nursing bras since Carter was a newborn and they broke after a couple weeks.

I got two dresses and 4 dresses. I feel so good! I can't believe it's taken me this long to get some nursing clothes. I focus so much on Carter and his clothes and toys and equipment and have been ignoring myself. I realized today, and DH did too, that I need to focus on myself some too and feel good about myself so I can be a better mother, wife and person.

We're also joining a gym that has a childcare center and I'm going to start really focusing on my midsection. I want to be happy and healthy for my baby boy but look good while getting there too
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October 14th, 2012, 05:20 PM
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I'm glad you did something for yourself. It is way too easy for all of us to focus on the kids and ignore ourselves.

I'm glad you feel better about yourself.
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October 14th, 2012, 05:44 PM
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I'm glad you treated yourself. It's so easy to put ourselves on the back burner since we're taking care of kids.

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October 14th, 2012, 05:54 PM
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Good for you! I wish I could make myself a priority. I go through phases where I really take care if my eating, I run almost every evening and then something happens and I fall off. It's awful.

I actually just cancelled my gym membership because I stopped using it when DH had his first surgery in May.

I need your ambition!

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October 14th, 2012, 06:03 PM
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You definitely deserve to pamper yourself! I am just like you and the other ladies as far as slacking on the focusing on me department. I barely get enough energy up to put on makeup and never wear my contacts anymore. I also always throw my hair up in a pony tail and throw on a sweatshirt with jeans. I am going to get a gym membership with my sister and we are going to try to keep each other motivated.

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October 14th, 2012, 10:11 PM
mom2more's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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Good for you!! I got to that point around July where I realized that I was letting myself go and felt frumpy. Been eating better (was following weight watchers) and been going to the gym. I feel really good now! Still have a lot of weight to lose, but I just feel better knowing I have been doing something about it. And the little break with my little guy in the gym childcare is nice. He plays with the other kids and I get some "me" time.

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October 15th, 2012, 12:13 AM
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Good for you. Everyone deserves to pamper themselves from time to time.
I'm jealous too. The Motherhood Maternity here has almost zero nursing clothes.

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October 15th, 2012, 09:36 AM
joonzgurl's Avatar Proud mama of 2 girls
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Good for you for doing something for yourself! You deserve it!
I definately know how you feel. I was feeling so gross and despressed, and I felt like my husband though I was gross, etc.

Well, I finally re-joined weight wachers, and I would HIGHLY recommend finding meeting if there is one in your area. I have lost over 10lbs since the beginning of September, and I just love the support I get from meetings. Just an idea
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October 15th, 2012, 12:40 PM
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That's great! I'm glad you both recognized that you needed some pampering!
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October 15th, 2012, 01:03 PM
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Im determined this pregnancy to dress nicely. I did better with Everett's so I am hoping to be even been with this one.
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October 16th, 2012, 10:10 AM
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Good for you! It's very hard to put ourselves first once we have children but there are lots of benefits to it.

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October 16th, 2012, 11:28 AM
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October 17th, 2012, 06:43 AM
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Good for you, girl! I'm glad you got some clothes/bras that make you feel better about yourself!

It is easy to let yourself go when we are always taking care of little ones. I fear that with two babies, I won't have ANY time for myself but I determined to get back into shape after Bryce comes, no matter what!
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