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November 19th, 2012, 03:47 PM
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Active duty for the navy cut off is 34.
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November 19th, 2012, 04:13 PM
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Is he thinking along these lines?

I have not education, so my job choices are limited, and if I keep going to do the same type of jobs I"m going to end up unemployeed AGAIN and never get out of this mess. so I could go to school, get an edcuation, get a better job, get out of this mess, and then not end up in this mess again?

I se his point, if he has a plan, where he'll go to school for X major and get a job after 2 years (or less if what he took before transferes/applies) some of the skilled programs can be done in only 1 year, and then get you a pretty decent job out of it when you are done.

being behind in rent? is that the rent you pay FIL? or your part of what needs to be paid?

could you both look for jobs on alternating shifts so you can get two incomes coming in for a while, even if just till the first of the year to get you caught up?

I don't think I'd be pissed that he wants to do school, but I'd press him to know his plan for it all.
well im thinking this is part of his argument thought he still doesnt exactly know what hes going for ... i mean he want s some computer certification .. and then is associate degree would be the 2nd thing but he has no idea where to go from there . or what he wants outta it.

ok say he came to me with some kinda plan .... not just i wanna go to school i duno what i wanna do i just wanna go .... no idea what id say in that situation which is more what your bringing up.

that wasnt what happened. its just i wanna go to school ... im scared cause it sounds so loosy goosy .... so unplanned .. just going to go ...

he once talked about getting a business license and then making his own company of what he used to do ..... instead of be a seasonal worker be the guy who runs the jobs and crew ..

ok well there is a plan that sounds like something is going down ... something can grow from that kinda idea ... i get that ...

but as far as hes told me this time its just some grabbing at straws idea to go to school ......... i would at least give it some REAL thought if he had anything like that panned ..

but im thinking he wants to get into writing or creating video games or something to do with digital art er w/e which is fine .. something creative with computers ... well ... video games ... its a hard field to get into as im told but i believe it cause who wouldnt wanna create and play games for a living ?? lotta people wanting these jobs ... how long would it take for him to get a career in thie field ..?

honestly sounds like it be a long time ...... and can i wait that long and support us while he puts us further in debt with student loans? i have no idea ... thats why we are still discussing this and nothing is set in stone atm ...

i really like that he is willing to talk about this over time ... not rush into one thing or another ... cause every time we talk about it something new comes up ... a new idea ... a new possible way to make everyone happy and SAFE money wise.

its still the start of this so im thinking we will have many ideas to like or shoot down .... ill keep you all posted on what we eventually decide .... if anything atm i like the work full time til august then see where you are at idea.
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Active duty for the navy cut off is 34.
wow .... i could actually mention this as well then.... i honestly have no idea if he has ever thought about this option since he could not fly he kinda dumped all the armed forces as an option ..

i have always admired women with men in the service for many reason s .... they have to hold the home together alone when DH is away ... which can be a long long time ...

the strength it takes to give up that time with your husband ... often .... honestly im now more worried if i could make it thru a decision like that .

then again ... there are so many positives .... the income ... him pulling up his big boy panties and being (for lack of a better term) a better man.

i have felt that dh is still growing from guy to man.... if that makes sense ... good intentions ... just doesn't have it down yet .. ...

no one in his ENTIRE LIFE has made him / FORCED him to grow up and be responsible

maybe thats why hes so bad and slow at it ...

no one ever made him accountable in the past his family just kinda let him do w/e there was no consequence really ... hes slow to adjust but ... i actually do feel like he is putting in effort ....

i duno maybe we could consider it ...

at least ill mention it and see where it goes
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You said he likes computers and computer programming there are several rates that would give him this kind of training. Deployments for the navy are anywhere from 6-8 months (8 was our longest). Unless he goes IA which would be a year to a year and a half. If you have specific questions about navy life let me know. It's hard but we would not have all we do without the military.
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At 28 years old, he can definitely join the Army. DH said the Army is the only branch where you are able to choose your job, rather than that branch telling you what job to do. There are a TON of jobs to choose from in the Army...It wouldn't hurt him at all to just go visit a recruiting station & speak to a recruiter about his options...If he likes to fly, maybe he would like to jump & he could be come airborne? My DH is airborne & he jumps from planes all the time! He enjoys it

We have been in the Army for 6 years & although it has been difficult at times, I would much rather him leave here & there than live paycheck to paycheck wondering if I would have enough money to buy my child formula or take him to the emergency room...It's a great option that I think you guys should definitely look into.

Please PM me if you have any questions.
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DH joined the Army last year at the age of 27.
He was the "old guy" in basic training and in school though
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November 19th, 2012, 06:58 PM
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There are multiple computer certifications he can get. Microsoft, Cisco , A+, & database to name a few. Most or all could be obtained within a year, & he could get a job with a starting salary in the 30's & move up to the 60 range. Those are Texas figures, so it could be more where you are. The good thing about these careers is that a degree is not needed as long as he's certified & knows his stuff.

Most community colleges offer these courses, & they offer them at flexible times to accommodate working adults.
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There are multiple computer certifications he can get. Microsoft, Cisco , A+, & database to name a few. Most or all could be obtained within a year, & he could get a job with a starting salary in the 30's & move up to the 60 range. Those are Texas figures, so it could be more where you are. The good thing about these careers is that a degree is not needed as long as he's certified & knows his stuff.

Most community colleges offer these courses, & they offer them at flexible times to accommodate working adults.
im thinking my counter offer to him is going to be that he works full time til august then see where we are then yeah he can get into a college class to get w/e comp cert he needs/wants ... that OR work full time til January sneak in night classes if he feels he can swing it? i duno we shall see what cert he needs check out how long it takes and such
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I think that's an excellent compromise! Have him check dice.com. They list jobs in the IT field. He can browse to see what jobs are in demand in your area, what they pay, & what certifications they expect a prospect to have.
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At 28 years old, he can definitely join the Army. DH said the Army is the only branch where you are able to choose your job, rather than that branch telling you what job to do. There are a TON of jobs to choose from in the Army...It wouldn't hurt him at all to just go visit a recruiting station & speak to a recruiter about his options...If he likes to fly, maybe he would like to jump & he could be come airborne? My DH is airborne & he jumps from planes all the time! He enjoys it

We have been in the Army for 6 years & although it has been difficult at times, I would much rather him leave here & there than live paycheck to paycheck wondering if I would have enough money to buy my child formula or take him to the emergency room...It's a great option that I think you guys should definitely look into.

Please PM me if you have any questions.
Good luck.
You can choose your job for the navy as well, but the jobs you can choose are based on your asvab. My husband was orginally going to work with computers but an engineering job opened up with an earlier leave date for basic so he took that. He is so glad he did.
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