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March 11th, 2013, 12:26 AM
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I finally got to see my midwife today...LONG story short was that she had taken a long break and I had seen her student at 12 weeks instead. Today was also the first time I had heard my baby's heartbeat too - tears everywhere!!!
However, I was not keen to use her again because of the complications first time round. She repeatidly told me that ultrasounds were always off at guessing the birth weight - which I am sure they are - and that I could easily have a big baby with no problem. She cancelled some of my appointments the first time round because I had been seeing an OB that she referred me to for my thyroid etc so she felt like I did not need her support as well.......and here an independant midwife is not paid for the pregnancy care after an OB referral and they are not paid for a birth if it ends in a c-section.
I chose to go back because she is the closest to us by far and I had hoped that things had changed. Boy was I wrong. She was late for our appointment, when she finally let me hear the heartbeat, she said she had told me that my baby would be fine (I rang her last week to confirm the appointment and told her of my concern that I had yet to hear the heartbeat and she said I had nothing to worry about) Is she physic???????
She did not ask me how I want to birth this time round but rather proceeded to tell me that because I had my thyroid removed, I would now have a smaller baby and can therefore have a natural birth - WTH?? Does she not realise that I FEAR of having a large baby again. I mean 11lbs 6ozs is nothing to sneeze at and the labour prior to the emergency c-section was utter HELL. We cant be certain that my thyroid was the cause of Zoe's heavy birth weight but she is telling me that all will be fine. If I elect to have a c-section this time, she wont get paid for the birth and I just felt like she was being a sales-person selling me the natural way (nothing against anyone how chooses a VABC!!)

Sorry for the vent but wow.......I only see her almost half-way through the pregnancy and she delt me with that!!! I am thinking of ringing the hospital tomorrow to see if their team of midwives there have space for me. I dont care about the extra travel or having to take a toddler in every time. I know they are paid via the government through salaries so if I ask for a c-section, it wont be a problem. I just feel I should be allowed the choice without being "sold" something due to money.

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March 11th, 2013, 08:16 AM
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If you aren't happy with your care deffenately switch sooner rather than later. I'm glad your little one is doing ok and that you got to hear the heartbeat. Good luck!

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March 11th, 2013, 09:23 AM
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Wow, I'd think she does have a vested interest in you doing VBAC since she won't get paid. I would definitely move on if you don't feel comfortable with her. I'm sorry she's not supporting you!
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March 11th, 2013, 10:07 AM
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it does sound like time to find a new care provider. She does not sound like she is addressing your concerns at all or listening to how you feel about things which you should have a big say in!

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March 11th, 2013, 10:42 AM
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Oh Karen. Some people are just not good care providers! You should find someone else since you're not happy with her. I'd look for someone else, too!

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March 11th, 2013, 11:27 AM
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I agree if you are not happy then switch. I will say that about the HB she may have just wanted to calm your nerves that if you did not have any symptoms of something being wrong, while she may not have gone about it in the best way I believe that may have been her intent. I know nothing about thyroids and birth weights hopefully you have an easier pregnancy this time around and find a supportive provider no matter what your decision is.

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March 11th, 2013, 01:58 PM
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What a bummer. If your not comfortable deffinetly move to a new dr or midwife.
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March 11th, 2013, 02:51 PM
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Thanks ladies! Have just spoken to the hospital and they are happy to take me on as well as giving me the option of a repeat c-section or not. I will discuss that later with the OB there as I have not made a decision yet....just wanted the option. Yay, I feel like a huge cloud has been lifted.
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March 11th, 2013, 04:18 PM
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I'm glad it worked out for you!

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March 12th, 2013, 04:28 PM
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HUGS!! No one should be treated like that - especially a pregnant lady! Glad that the hospital will take you in and hope they have a better team of midwives/ob for you!!
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March 12th, 2013, 08:09 PM
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Glad that they have room for you at the hospital! That midwife sounds like a pill!

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