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Wow. DD (16) just came to me and said "I have a question and I want the complete truth. Are you pregnant?" I asked her why she thought that and she said that everything's adding up. My history on my computer (she was looking for an ad on craigslist that she had seen a few days earlier and saw all the baby sites), the fact that I quit smoking and my general *****iness lately, not to mention that I have baby books (she must have seen my what to expect book in my purse last week) and when I just opened up my laptop she saw me close the "baby" related tabs real quick.
Luckily I have a friend who is pregnant again and I was able to pin everything on her, the fact that she announced early in December only to announce a loss in January and then announced early again and now she's freaking out so I'm helping her with research to ease her mind. Whew. Was totally hard to keep a straight face!!
Two more weeks and we can tell her! Waiting to hear the heartbeat at the first Dr appt at 8+4 before we tell her.
Hard situation to be in. She may have some resentment seeing that you lied to her, but for a good reason. We are telling family today. My DD may not take it to well as she and her husband have been ttc for 2 years and are having issues. She was a little less than thrilled with the fact that we were even trying. She made sure she pointed out ALL the negatives of being a child of advanced age parents and all the things that could go wrong.
Eek, I agree, hard situation to be in. I wouldn't have lied to my 16 year old especially if she asked for the truth. I would hope that at that age they can understand things a little more, especially if it is explained really well. I hope that she doesn't have any hard feelings towards you, or doesn't trust you now. I hope that she can understand your reasoning as to why you were hiding it from her. Good luck at your appointment!
She mentioned that she had taken a pic of my history and sent it to her bf and they talked about it and he mentioned that most people don't say anything until at least 8 weeks anyway. She'll be fine when we tell her, we aren't worried about any resentment at all. She knows that we don't lie unless it's a good reason
I'm sure if DH was awake (he works nights) and she asked us together that we wouldn't have been able to keep from telling her. He's wanted to tell her since day 1 and has had a harder time not saying anything to her. I just need to hear a heartbeat before telling her and immediate family. Waiting until 12 weeks to then go public with everyone else.