[lisadlv]

Iam sorry that I need to really vent about this.. For the past couple of days I have had numerous mutual friends say that my fiance has been makeing statements about me. I have just been ignoring them but he left his phone home today and I read his messages(I know not very right but I had to know). The messages confirmed what I had been told. They said things like, I make him sick to his stomach, he doesnt want me around him, he wishes I would just get the hint and move out, he doesnt want anything to do with me, and he wishes that I would just have a m/c or an abortion. This makes me so sad and upset and I dont know what I should do.

[ArisMomma106]

Omg thats awful i am so sorry youre going through this

[disturbedangel121]

Omg what a jerk. I'm sorry you are going through this, he does not deserve you!

[AmbiMom]

How very hurtful. So Sorry.

[Rebelmommy]

((HUGS)) Thats terrible. It sounds like you really need to sit down with him and find out what is going on. I would not mention that you read his messages as that may put him on the defensive right from the start, but definitely mention (without using names) that you have been hearing that he is saying these things about you and you feel that you need to talk about it. It may simply be that he is feeling overwhelmed by the idea of the baby, however if he truly feels that way it is better to find out now and know where you stand then to spend time stressing out about it which is not good for you or the baby.

I am so sorry that you are having to deal with this.

[mamatomany]

That's horrible! I'm so, so sorry you're having to deal with this! Please talk to him about the things you've been hearing and get it from him what on earth is going on. If he's going to be an awful jerk you need to get yourself in a healthier situation soon! Hugs!

[Lynn87]

Oh wow! I am so sorry. I would be leaving his butt ASAP.

[rosiewells]

I agree you need to sit down and chat with him. (Do not mention reading his messages! For above reasons mentioned!) I hope everything works out okay for you. I am sorry you are having to deal with this. HUGS!

[Kristina]

Oh wow who is he saying this too? Is he the father to all of your children? Were you guys trying for a baby? I would fess up about looking through his phone, because if you confront him with the information and he denies it you have proof kwim. If it were me his clothes would be packed up on the front lawn, and the doors locked. You don't deserve to be treated like this esp pregnant. You are going through enough besides his immature crap added to it. I'm very volatile while pregnant and I have kicked dh out for stupid immature not calling when he is going to be late kind of things while pregnant usually during early pregnancy, I tell you my hormones make me a hair trigger temper crazy momma. He's never left just realized that he needed to smarted up.lol

[Ravado]

Oh my that is awful! I am so sorryyou have to deal with this. He does not deserve to be with you.

[Excited_mommy]

Oh wow no one deserves that. I would definitely try to find a better situation even if that meant leaving or taking a break or whatever... If he acts that way towards you then imagine how he will act towards baby. Baby is most important person. I'd confront him and do what you have to do. I'm sorry, I know that must be so hard to deal with.

[*CrabLegs*]

That is just awful of him, he doesn't deserve you and you don't deserve to dealing with this! Only a real loser would go around verbalizing things like that about his pregnant fiance, he's only making himself look like trash. You really need to sit down with him and flat out ask him what he wants. I would probably tell him I'm hearing things from people and if he denies it I'd tell him he can check his phone if he forgets what he said.

If you then decide to continue the relationship (which I personally don't know if I'd be able to do) then it sounds like some serious couples counseling would be in order. How dare he! I am so mad for you! I hope you get this figured out quickly, your children and this baby need you to be strong, happy and healthy!

[Mom2twolittlemen]

Oh my that is terrible ! First off I absolutely would take his phone and text your phone with the messages so you have written proof what was said! You have three kids already with him? Whatever is going on definetly warrants a serious discussion. If my husband EVER said anything like that about mr and I found out I'd probably make sure he would br staying elsewhere until things were settled. That's disgusting that anyone could say that about someone they care about. I'm so sorry. I also would approach him with the things you been hearing and whip out your phone with the proof if he denies. If he tells you the truth store it.

[sarah*]

Wow i would be hurt too!! that stuff is awful to say i hope you can confront him about it and kick his butt a bit

[teacher.123]

The ladies here gave some good advice. Try and have a civil conversation with him and figure things out. Maybe its his way of dealing with the stress of another baby (not right by any means).

Be careful and make sure you and the kids stay safe (emotionally speaking also).

[wishing]

I am so sorry. I know first hand how hard a relationship break down can be while pregnant. During my first pregnancy which was planned me and my husband ended up breaking up. I found out some things he was doing and left realizing it wouldn't be best for the baby if i stayed.

If he could say those things to people, especially multiple people then he isn't respecting you and your children shouldn't see you in a relationship where you aren't respected. I would be telling him he needs to leave even if not forever just until he figures out whats going on. If in the end he truly wants to be there then I would see someone to help you guys communicate. If he really is feeling that way and wants out then better now then after the baby.

[martilynne]

Wow, what terrible things to say. I'm sorry you are having to deal with this right now.

[MiaVena]

Wow thats awful!! Im sorry you are going through this....so rude and unthoughtful !!!! *hugs* stay strong...take time and start a serious conversation with him...its something that just keeps on rotting if not treated.

[Deimoska]

Oh, that is so awful! I am sorry you must go through this. You are in my thoughts.

[stephanieaehenley]

im so sorry you are dealing with this but you should talk it out and if he really feels that way and tells you that then i would leave, but you have to do what is right for you and your kids