[artisticmind]

Title says it all

We haven't yet. Only a few IRL know and they are under strict orders not to say a word. We're either going to announce the end of next week after our 12wk appointment or we may possibly wait until the end of August. We're hoping to go to the Mall of America Labor Day weekend and if we do we're hoping to do an elective u/s to get the gender and may wait to reveal until we get back from our vacation. Haven't decided for sure yet. Decisions, decisions....

[Excited_mommy]

Our immediate family knows but we are waiting till our appointment on Wednesday to tell the rest of the family!

[Frangipani]

My mom knows b/c she was here last weekend and asked why I wasn't drinking, hah. Other than that though, we haven't told a soul. We will wait til I am out of the first tri, for sure.

[rosiewells]

We have only told immediate family. We are also waiting until after the 12th week to tell the rest of the family. I may try holding out on telling my work. We will see.

[martilynne]

I've got a couple of weddings I'm traveling to next week so I'll be breaking the news when I see my friends in person. I have my NT scan on monday before we leave so I will be more comfortable spilling the beans. I'm not sure if I will ever announce on FB.

[sarah*]

Nope we haven't told alot of people, none of DH family know and only my parents of my family know, a few close friends of mine know though. I plan to tell after i have had my u/s (family) but im thinking of holding off telling friends until a bit later unsure yet.

[sweety_pie]

I haven't told many people yet, just MIL and 3 close friends really. I'm not sure when I tell, maybe after my 12 weeks appointment, after hearing the heartbeat.

[mistletoe]

I'm 13 going on 14 weeks and only a handful of people know. At this point I've finally reached as much of a secure-in-my pregnancy feeling as I figure I'll get, but I still have hesitated to let the word be spread. (We're not doing an announcement per se, but the few close friends I've told I've asked to keep hush for the time being.) Although, I'm pretty sure DH has told everyone at his workplace. He's been dying to let it out. Most of our friends and acquaintances live elsewhere since we recently moved.

As a FTM I am not yet comfortable with people not close to me wanting to talk-all-about-it. (At my age this will include those invasive questions like: did you use fertility treatments? I thought you didn't want/couldn't have/don't like kids?) I'm really very private about certain things, and this feels like one of those things. Telling the world seems to invite that kind of none-of-your-business invasion.

What I'd really prefer -- just wait until I see people when I look really pregnant (8 months? and say to their bulging eyes: yup. Not really much they can say then, right?

[eiramillek]

Originally Posted by mistletoe

I'm 13 going on 14 weeks and only a handful of people know. At this point I've finally reached as much of a secure-in-my pregnancy feeling as I figure I'll get, but I still have hesitated to let the word be spread. (We're not doing an announcement per se, but the few close friends I've told I've asked to keep hush for the time being.) Although, I'm pretty sure DH has told everyone at his workplace. He's been dying to let it out. Most of our friends and acquaintances live elsewhere since we recently moved.

As a FTM I am not yet comfortable with people not close to me wanting to talk-all-about-it. (At my age this will include those invasive questions like: did you use fertility treatments? I thought you didn't want/couldn't have/don't like kids?) I'm really very private about certain things, and this feels like one of those things. Telling the world seems to invite that kind of none-of-your-business invasion.

What I'd really prefer -- just wait until I see people when I look really pregnant (8 months? and say to their bulging eyes: yup. Not really much they can say then, right?

I don't understand why people would think it was okay to ask questions or say things like that!

[*BabyMaMa*]

We'be only told our parents and siblings. I've told a hand full of people at work only bc I can't take certain patients. I'm waiting until after my ultrasound on thursday to tell the rest of my family and work.

[kikismith]

No one knows, we're gonna wait till either im 12 weeks, or about 16 weeks (after we have an elective gender u/s at 15weeks, they do them here in Chicago and if they cant tell the gender 100% you can come back for free, sounds like a win win to me )

[sparkle04]

Wow I can't keep a secret!! You guys are awesome!!

[MiaVena]

i have told some of my friends and my sister found it out herself, so she knows as well, my parents might have a clue, but i havent told them..also my grandparents and siblings have no clue yet... soon, i will tell them all...after my next scan and appt, when everything is well...

[Mommytoeight2013]

I haven't told anyone yet but the hubby of course. I'm not sure when I'm going to tell family and friends yet.

[jeangeorge2742728]

I have told a few close family members, My children know they are gonna have a new baby. Still keeping it from a few.

[CptStargel]

We are telling starting today. Waiting on DH to tell his crazy mom first! If she finds out anyone else knew before her she will freak. My mom already knows though! Haha! Shhhh!

[gratzie]

DH needs to tell his aunt and uncle, and his cousin. Then we're making our FB announcement. My family knows, as does my work so DH needs to get on this!!!

[chickadee]

We went through IVF (this was our 3rd round) and there were people who knew about that and that we were relying on for support, and so those people (our parents and siblings, my best friend, my boss) knew right away. I had to let some other people at work know when we began to have problems and I had to be out for so many appointments. We just began sharing the news with other people on Thursday.

[Excited_mommy]

Originally Posted by mistletoe

I'm 13 going on 14 weeks and only a handful of people know. At this point I've finally reached as much of a secure-in-my pregnancy feeling as I figure I'll get, but I still have hesitated to let the word be spread. (We're not doing an announcement per se, but the few close friends I've told I've asked to keep hush for the time being.) Although, I'm pretty sure DH has told everyone at his workplace. He's been dying to let it out. Most of our friends and acquaintances live elsewhere since we recently moved.

As a FTM I am not yet comfortable with people not close to me wanting to talk-all-about-it. (At my age this will include those invasive questions like: did you use fertility treatments? I thought you didn't want/couldn't have/don't like kids?) I'm really very private about certain things, and this feels like one of those things. Telling the world seems to invite that kind of none-of-your-business invasion.

What I'd really prefer -- just wait until I see people when I look really pregnant (8 months? and say to their bulging eyes: yup. Not really much they can say then, right?

Don't you wish people had sensors on them and knew when some things were just not appropriate to say. I hope you don't let other peoples negativity keep you from being super excited! Babies are miracles no matter what!

[mistletoe]

Thanks for the sympathies to insensitive people. Rest assured I am delighted beyond belief and am enjoying every dreaming thought of being a mother.

For the thought-you-didn't-want/like-kids comments that I KNOW will come eventually, I secretly want to reply: We don't. But we heard the black market for babies is just awesome. But I think the people who would actually say that to me are not the same ones who enjoy a little dark sarcastic humor.