[MiaVena]

As embarrassing as it sounds... i dont have my libido anymore!! We havent done it for agesss...poor BF is desperate, but i honestly dont know what to do, because i just ..dont..feel...sexy... i dont have The spark for it or i dont feel comfortable ...i want to, but i dont know how to..this is my first pregnancy developed that far...
dont get me wrong, for what im going to say next, but im not trying to whine too much about it, but ..all my life have been used to be that pretty girl, sexy.. i loved my hair and every inch of my body ... right now i love it, because it shows me that im pregnant, but im just not used to my whole new being and...it sounds silly, but it keeps me from the... *intimacy* me and my BF need....
My hair color is growing out, i cant stand the smell of coloring when im pregnant...i have zits on my face, on my back (never had them on my back before) my hair growth is...rapid..

Sorry, ladies, i never thought i would whine about pregnancy...dont get me wrong..i Love being pregnant... i just want to feel a bit myself for a change.
anyone got any hints or tips how to get the spark back or maybe someone is on the same boat???

[kikismith]

My helpful tip is.... just do it! Literally once you start having sex, you and your partner will feel better. It's one of those things, that you dont want to do, but once you get into it, its like "ok this isnt so bad after all". I think its so important to be intimate with your spouse or partner during pregnancy (as long as you can).

Also what helps me is getting out of my sweats, styling my hair, putting on make up, a nice summer dress and big sunglasses, and going out somewhere. But I really recommend giving some to your BF

[sarah*]

We haven't done it since i become pregnant!!! i have lost all will to have sex lol!!

[Excited_mommy]

There are times now and then where I don't feel up to it simply because I feel bigger.. But the fact that he still wants to makes me feel good. I agree, just give in to it. He will appreciate it and once you do, I'm sure you'll appreciate it too. I don't work and so there are a few days where I don't have to dress nice, I can wear a shirt and some shorts all day.. But I do find it a lot easier when I actually dress nice, put on some make up and what not because I feel more confident, like I still look pretty even though my body is changing so much.

[Rebelmommy]

DH and I haven't BD since I got my BFP.. I hate to admit but I am like you and though I have done this before I just don't feel attractive at the moment Hubby finds me attractive but I don't sooo.. poor guy is out in the cold at the moment Good to know I am not alone in this though.

[martilynne]

We took off some time during the first trimester because I had some spotting. Now I'm making an effort to do it once a week. I am so not in the mood but I really enjoy it once we get going. Honestly, I feel like crap and I feel like I look even worse but I guess my preggo body super turns on DH so I guess I don't look that bad...

[MiaVena]

thanks, ladies, im glad to know that im not alone in this i will try and give in ..will see how it goes

[Frangipani]

My OB actually put me on pelvic rest for the entire first trimester. No DTD until my big ultrasound, which is Wednesday. DH is about to go crazy. I feel really badly about it but I'm so scared something will go wrong with the pregnancy, I don't know how I will do it then. I'm with you about feeling all blah too.

I agree with the advice of just do it. I am having a hard time, but I do it to help DH stay happy, he's too high drive not to have sex for weeks or months. And I do like it too! I just have a hard time getting into it. We've kept up our normal frequency and I've found that once we start I get into it and don't regret it. If I am really not feeling up to it, then we will do 'other' things or at the least (without getting all TMI) be there with him while he.. y'know.

[mamatomany]

Originally Posted by kikismith

My helpful tip is.... just do it! Literally once you start having sex, you and your partner will feel better. It's one of those things, that you dont want to do, but once you get into it, its like "ok this isnt so bad after all".

Totally agree!

[beccasmom7718]

we havent DTD since I got my bfp either, but Im scared to because of previous losses. I was spotting my whole first trimester and my drs rule is if your spotting then dont dtd, but if your not, go ahead. I told DH im not until 24weeks, atleast then if something goes wrong, baby is viable!
He is going to go insane im sure. We fool around, but thats it.

[JoyandNumberFive]

I'm definitely giving it up even when I don't feel like it for the hubby I've been reading through this blog that has a challenge called 29 Days to Great Sex I love her blog and recently discovered it and it has motivated me to make sure I give as much as I can in that area in my marriage. Stay at it if you can ladies

[MommyKent910]

I think all the ladies are right, just do it. I think sometime, at least with me, mentally Im just not into it but if you just give in and start, usually your body will jump right in and I think you BF would really appericate it. I think maybe a nice cute outfit, some makeup and maybe a nice dinner might lead to some fun. GOOD LUCK and know that sex drive gets better the further into the second trimester.

[foosdiva]

I felt that way last time, but I would talk myself into it for him. I never regretted it though. This time, I have much better sex drive. Too bad my husband is never around for it. J/k haha let's just say he never has a problem with spur of the moment sex. The not feeling sexy for me comes later when I start showing. I feel like a fat cow and totally irresistible. But I have to remind myself my husband thinks I'm the most beautiful woman in the world big and pg or not. :d

[sarakaye0726]

If I could give you my libido, which is not going to use anymore due to all my restrictions, I totally would I agree with everyone else... just go for it! You'd be surprised how much you might enjoy it even though you don't think you will.

[stephanieaehenley]

when im pregnant i really dont have any sex drive but i have been making an effort to DTD at least once a week, and if im feeling up to it more than once lol

[Kristina]

I am on pelvic rest right now and dh is going insane, we used to dtd 2-3 times a week, he has a very high sex drive, its killing him. I am not even allowed to O so we don't do much.

I would just go for it usually all it takes is a little make out session and I'm ready to go. lol. It helps that dh always makes me feel so beautiful and attractive, he tells me at least 3 times a day how beautiful I am. <3

[Born2BeAmom]

My main issue has been the severe nausea. The last time we were together I almost threw up on him. (he of course doesn't know this) lol I'm sure he guessed though. Afterwards, I had to quickly sit up and start swallowing in order to not throw up. He thought it was cute! hahaha Me... I was just thankful I didn't puke on him. Sooo not sexy... lol I'm so ready for morning sickness to go away. I can get past feeling ugly for him. Intimacy is really imp. in a marriage so I make this a priority. I want my man happy and so content that all he can see is me.

[lisadlv]

We have been lacking in that department as well. I havent had the drive to and have pretty much used up every excuse that I could think of. When I first broke my tail bone we tried only to find out that it hurt too badly. Then tried recently after him pretty much begging me(which I felt horrible about) and it hurt so bad inside that I just told him to hurry up. Way to kill the mood I know. Im going to talk to the doctor about that at my next appointment for sure.

[MiaVena]

yea well, i pulled myself together and thought myself into it last night and i cant say that i didnt like it hehe actually it was great and my BF was so excited about all of this so im glad i took your advice, ladies