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July 17th, 2012, 12:42 PM
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I feel awful for DH we haven't DTD since his birthday, and I'm assuming that's when we conceived. It's been almost 3 weeks  I feel so bad, but I'm just so tired! And it doesn't help that my boobs feel like they're on fire, so even if we do BD I wouldn't let DH get near them. He's such a good sport, he asks so nicely and every time I turn him down. Is there something that I can do to get it back??
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July 17th, 2012, 12:51 PM
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I think it's just a waiting game... Last time mine came back in the 2nd trimester, and then really strong during the 3rd! (of course when the belly is biggest!  ). You should see him this time though! I've turned him down a couple of times already and he just gives a knowing smile like he knows what's coming!
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July 17th, 2012, 12:52 PM
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I'm right there with you, girl! Its so weird for me because I usually exceed dh's libido, so me having no interest is so strange. I just feel so sick and gross all the time. I usually just try and force myself once in a while and then I'm able to get into mood that way. Other than that, I just hope to start feeling better in the second trimester 
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July 17th, 2012, 01:03 PM
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Originally Posted by SammyJ
I'm right there with you, girl! Its so weird for me because I usually exceed dh's libido, so me having no interest is so strange. I just feel so sick and gross all the time. I usually just try and force myself once in a while and then I'm able to get into mood that way. Other than that, I just hope to start feeling better in the second trimester |
I'll just ditto this!!!
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July 17th, 2012, 01:04 PM
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When I'm pregnant I have no drive at all. I need to feel sexy to be in the mood and I DO NOT feel sexy when pg, I go into mommy mode.
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July 17th, 2012, 01:24 PM
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Last time when didn't have sex the entire pregnancy, I was sick, we struggled to get ready for the baby, buy stuff, convert a room to the nursery, family health issues....I don't know if we'll be having sex this time either. It's really hard to feel "sexy" when you're pregnant, "womanly" yes, but sexy was a stretch for me while throwing up etc.
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July 17th, 2012, 01:39 PM
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I have no interest in my husband and sex right now. He's so frustrated and isn't happy (and I think he looked at porn the other day which he knows I hate...since he tries to hide it and not just be honest about). I feel bad but I just don't want him touching me right now, and I don't want to run the risk of spotting and then freaking out about it.
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July 17th, 2012, 02:55 PM
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Wow, so glad someone else feels this way. I feel NO desire at ALL. Poor DH went off on me about how he has "needs" too...ugh...and how I need to be thinking about him at least once a week or two. LOL...poor guy. I try to force it but I just feel NOTHING.
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July 17th, 2012, 03:06 PM
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Originally Posted by sweet.hun
I have no interest in my husband and sex right now. He's so frustrated and isn't happy (and I think he looked at porn the other day which he knows I hate...since he tries to hide it and not just be honest about). I feel bad but I just don't want him touching me right now, and I don't want to run the risk of spotting and then freaking out about it.
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I was honestly thinking of just letting him do it, and just have a "don't ask, don't tell" kind of thing. I mean I know he needs that release, he's been so grumpy and short with me. I just don't want him even looking at me.
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Originally Posted by naalie
Wow, so glad someone else feels this way. I feel NO desire at ALL. Poor DH went off on me about how he has "needs" too...ugh...and how I need to be thinking about him at least once a week or two. LOL...poor guy. I try to force it but I just feel NOTHING.
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I try to force it, I've thought about just faking it ha! But I can't even geared up for that!
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July 17th, 2012, 03:35 PM
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That's sweet of your DH to be so understanding.
My libido's pretty low right now too, but I think men connect a lot of intimacy and validation through intercourse, and I don't do "duty" sex, but I do go ahead and try to get into things, and usually, by the time things are hot and heavy, I'm as excited as he is.
I try to never turn my husband down unless I'm seriously ill. Just like he never turns me down when I ask for things that *I* need to feel secure and intimate, like massages, a listening ear, cuddling, etc.
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July 17th, 2012, 03:36 PM
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I have to say ladies - I am the total opposite! I am WAY more frisky at the beginning of this pregnancy than I was for my last. My DH couldn't be happier~ (Or me for that matter
I know you will all get your mojo back after the first few months. If not - the internet does have its perks
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July 17th, 2012, 03:46 PM
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I have no desire either..I feel gross, sick, ugly, and tired all the time. I feel bad, but Dh doesn't have a huge drive anyway, so I am sure he'll survive.
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July 17th, 2012, 03:56 PM
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I have zero sex drive right now. I'm thinking it's just a subconscious way to make me feel better about being afraid to have sex.
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July 17th, 2012, 04:33 PM
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Originally Posted by LaceyMay2630
I was honestly thinking of just letting him do it, and just have a "don't ask, don't tell" kind of thing. I mean I know he needs that release, he's been so grumpy and short with me. I just don't want him even looking at me.
I try to force it, I've thought about just faking it ha! But I can't even geared up for that!
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See I would be fine with it if he wouldn't lie to me about it. He once used the excuse "I was buying something for you" when I came in and he minimized the screen. LMAO. His pants were down around his thighs and he expects me not to notice. BAHAHAH. When I asked him about it he said "I dunno, I just felt like it was bad and I'm sorry for lying."
I understand he needs his release, he should just be honest about it.
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July 17th, 2012, 05:10 PM
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Okay, so there is this thing called "backrubs for BJ's". (key is, you both have to do it together...no scrimpin' on the backrubs).
You both win 
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July 17th, 2012, 05:13 PM
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I have zero sex drive right now and it was the same way last pregnancy. I do not feel sexy at all when I'm pregnant, I just feel fat and awkward. We had sex last week and I was annoyed by the whole process!
Last pregnancy we stopped having sex around 6 months as my husband was really uncomfortable with the whole belly thing and it will probably be around the same this time. Until then it'll probably be once every 2 weeks!
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July 17th, 2012, 05:30 PM
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I'm so glad someone asked this question because I was trying to work up the nerve to ask. I had a normal libido up until the 6th week and then the nausea set in and the sex stopped. I hope I start feeling better because my husband has high demands...ugh!
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July 17th, 2012, 05:41 PM
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Originally Posted by Love_the_Shoes
Okay, so there is this thing called "backrubs for BJ's". (key is, you both have to do it together...no scrimpin' on the backrubs).
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Is there a time limit for the backrub? Or do you say "however long it takes for the BJ, that's how long the backrub will be?" HEHE. 
Although, I dunno if I could give a BJ right now, with how queasy I am it may end badly.
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July 17th, 2012, 05:54 PM
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LOL...yeah...maybe that can be for the 2nd trimester
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July 17th, 2012, 06:11 PM
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lol!! I like "don't ask, don't tell" that's where I think I'll leave things...I think he knows he's on his own again
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