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Ok, so dear, dear, DEAR hubby invited his mother up for a visit...without speaking to me first. So, here I am not feeling well, tired and GRUMPY and she's visiting for a WEEK. Well, she's very sweet but has this way of criticizing my "wifeleyness" in casual ways. Like picking specks off the floor and sneezing and saying how her allergies are really bad in dusty, dirty places. Or commenting on how it would be nice to see my daughter go to church in something other than rags with holes ([She's been to church like a couple times...we go to synagogue]Ok, she owns like TWO pairs of play pants with holes but everything else is beautiful)....or walking into the guest room that took me ALL day to scrub for her and walking out with a piece of fuzz or something she found on the floor. And I JUST heard her talking on the phone to her husband about needing a mask because of the dust....
Oh, and she JUST got here like an hour ago and my DH just left for the gym for like 3 hrs...leaving us ALONE....
Oooooooh, I would hand her some cleaning supplies and a mask and tell her that if the place isn't cleaned to her standards then she can clean it herself.
I'm so lucky I don't have a MIL like that. I would probably make it worse. LOL.
I agree. You are pregnant. Hand her the cleaning supplies and tell her to feel free to pitch in since you are carrying her grandchild, again, and you're exhausted and not feeling well I'd say it in a "nice" way but get the point across that she's being a pain in the *****....
I would do the exact same thing. You're staying in my house. As long as there is no medical waste lying around, and you can see the floor, don't complain.
Actually, I might offer to drop her off at a nearby hotel. But I can be mean.
ughh you're not making me look forward to my in law visit (in 4 weeks)...mine complains about the house being too cold, etc. etc. - try to ignore & i saw use pregnancy as an excuse to go rest by yourself in bedroom when it gets too aggravating
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Yeah, it's weird because she's so sweet and is nice to talk to then suddenly she will make a comment and I honestly can't tell if she's being mean or just ignorant of how you are supposed to act.
Ok, so right now she's making comments about what she can see under my couch. SERIOUSLY, I'm trying to be nice and I just can't figure out of theres an angle or not...
There's no angle and there's no nice-ness in what she is doing either. I'd give it to her straight. That is some nonsense. And if your DH doesn't want to experience preggo-hulk he better pull in the reigns on his DEAR MOTHER. Ohhh man I would be so lit up right now. She sounds like my mother... always nit-picking and then says she's just trying to be helpful. Um, no, that is not helpful, that is RUDE and if you don't like my house then you can LEAVE. (Yet another reason why my mother and I do not have a relationship! I can't do anything right whether its raising my kids, cleaning my house, whatever... it's never right!)
No kidding. What is she doing looking under your couch? That's downright weird. She sounds majorly passive-aggressive. If I were you, I'd sick your husband on her to give her a guilt trip.
I agree with coming straight out and saying something. Like "I don't know if you mean to, but I'm pregnant and sensitive, when you talk about our house like that it sounds like you're complaining, are you?" Then I smile and say "I'd really appreciate it if you could help us clean while you're here" It's not just your responsibility to clean your house, do you live alone?
I get it if it's hard, I am hormonal so I'd probably wind up saying something like "well if you raised your son to be a neater person I wouldn't have to do double duty!" Congratulations on not slapping her in the face! I might have
I don't have any better advice than what the other ladies have given, but I agree, that is so annoying and rude!! And you definitely shouldn't have to put up with it.
Ugh I dread my mother in laws visit for a few hours let alone a week! I feel for you! My mother in law is the always right & knows everything type of person. My hubby and I have been together for a couple years now and not once has she asked me any questions about my interests or anything....mainly bc she is too busy talking about herself...
I just got back and she has been SO sweet and nice...offering to clean or cook or WHATEVER I need. Hmm, I didn't PEEP to hubby about anything she said but it's like someone said something to her. She even cleaned something in the sink (she spilled salmon juice all over the can opener and I told her fish makes me sick and she cleaned the can opener....*shiver*
Maybe it's the beginning of a new change? Hmmmm...maybe she's secretly on here? LOL
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I'd say it in a "nice" way but get the point across that she's being a pain in the *****....
10/18/2011 (@8w5d) 
I say give her the cleaning supplies, say the smell makes you nauseous and you need to go lie down now. 
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