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DH and I celebrate our first anniversary on Monday so we had planned a road trip down to Memphis & Nashville for a getaway to celebrate.
After this morning, I'm afraid we might not even go now. Our cat, who we adopted and was an outdoor stray before we found him, LOVES to go outside. Whenever we open the door more than half an inch, he sticks his head through so he can get out. He usually doesn't go far, he mostly sits on the porch, but sometimes he'll run into the backyard and into the neighbor's yard. Well this morning when DH went to leave he got out and ran across the street, then under the car. It was 3:45 in the morning and dark out but I managed to make out the shape of his tail running into the backyard. DH went chasing after him and of course the cat ran even further away. DH had to go because he can't be late for work today, his department is already short handed, which has been causing him extreme anxiety and frustration all week, and to make it worse an exec is coming in today so he really can't be late. I told him just to go and I'd go find the cat. He tore off in his car, shouted to me that we're getting rid of the cat. He's texted me 3 times since that we're getting rid of him, then posted on FB to see if anybody wanted him. He's not joking. I can tell this is going to cause a huge fight because I am NOT getting rid of the cat. He may be annoying at times but I love him.
I am very upset with my husband. I love him to death but he has anger issues and he doesn't want to deal with them, he can't manage his anger like a normal person can. He is going to have a terrible day at work, and I wouldn't be surprised if he comes home tonight and says the trip is off.
I can't even talk to him about his anger. He won't talk when he's angry-he thinks he's right and everybody else has an obligation to not make him mad. He refuses to grasp that he has an obligation to control himself.
I just needed to vent. I am just so sad this is all happening right before our anniversary.
Oh honey Give him time to cool off and maybe just try to ignore the cat issue until you're back from your vacation.
Anger issues are something I am well aware of, Daniel doesn't have them but they are a family trait. If you can I'd try to definitely discuss them before the baby comes , babies are ultimately more.frustrating than adults or fur babies and you can't give them away!
aw sorry your dealing with a grumpy dh! Me and mine had a fight last week all was well until I had constipation pain and screamed over it then he called me a wuss etc... I think a lot of men get angry take it out on us when they feel they are not in control of a situation and want to always make things right (hope that makes sense to you). Hope you all work it out!
I hope the cat comes back and DH has a good day at work so he can come home in a better mood. If he's already stressing about work, I'm sure this little annoyance didn't help. What a crappy way to start the weekend.
I 'm sorry you and your DH are having this issue right before your big anniversary celebration, that sucks! I hope he cools down and you guys are able to working out and still have a great time on your trip!
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((hugs)) fighting is no fun especially before a big day! Sounds like your dh needs a wake up call on his attitude and anger issues. Really hope you can convince him that maybe he needs professional help. I mean, my animals have done done things to really make me mad but I don't let it ruin the rest of my day and take it out on my spouse.