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Okay, we'd been TTC for three months..and I was really really looking forward to being pregnant. Now that I actually am pregnant though, I feel very..hm.. detached/distant from it. I feel horrible for feeling this way, but honestly i don't even feel like I'm pregnant. Well, no, that's not right... I feel like I'm pregnant (hello bladder! Hello sore boobs!), but I don't feel the connection of "i'm having a baby".
Anyone else feeling like that?
I'm trying to get myself excited about it, but so far its not happening. I'm scared because one of my friends who has had two healthy children and one miscarriage told me she felt the same way with the one that she lost. Almost like she instinctively knew something wasn't right and was protecting herself.
I think once you hear the heartbeat and feel the baby move inside you you'll feel connected I wouldn't worry too much about it, especially if this is your first it's all new ground and sometimes you are just not sure how to react. One day at a time, you'll get there
Yeah, I'm excited but also a little reserved and detached. I'm not much of an emotional type of person, so I don't get all lovey dovey over much. I get waves of hearts and flowers and rainbows, but I'm not head over heels or anything.
I don't think there's anything weird about how you feel!
I think it's normal to have some reservations just because part of you is also worried about what could happen. It's hard right now too because for many of us the only proof we have is pg tests and bloodwork, and hardly any symptoms. I always found once I had my first ultrasound and heard that sweet, beautiful sound of a heartbeat, that was what did it for me.
I completely understand where you're coming from as I sort of feel the same. I am too afraid to get excited & happy for fear that something bad will happen ... I think that once I have my ultrasound & see the baby I will feel a lot better.
I felt that way in my first pregnancy for a long time actually. I was scared to death that I wouldn't love my baby. It totally turned around though !! Don't worry too much, I'm sure many of us feel the same way especially so early on.
I'll just put this out there. I do NOT get all excited over a new baby coming. Yes, I grieve when I have a mc, but I don't really fall in love with my baby until after he's born; and that takes a few weeks!
Maybe part of it's because we never plan our pgcys so it's like they're just a part of normal life. I expect I'm going to get pg again until I go through menopause.
There have been four pgcys I've been very excited about and I lost three of theml.
I would not worry, because I love all my children just as much as the next mother. I just don't fall in love with them before I meet them or drip with excitement when I'm pg. Each new person in a family is a change, so it's an adjustment even when they're welcome. I believe you'll get more excited or get more warm fuzzies as the months go on.
Some of us may be more like our husbands who take several months to process it all
__________________ Kelly, wife of 21 years to my own personal superman!
44 yo homeschooling mama to: dd SK (13.5)
dd AB (11)
ds TJ (9)
ds SR (6.5)
dd LG (4)
edd @ June 14