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Alright, I told my mom on Saturday. I was suppossed to tell her Friday, but we had to change dinner plans so I told her Saturday. Fair warning, this might get long.
So Saturday night me, my mom, and Cassie all head to dinner to celebrate me and Cassie getting a house. As we're having appitizers, I decide to break the news.
Me: So mom....the house isn't the only good news Cassie and I have.
Mom: Oh. Wait? Did one of you propose to the other? (she still can't figure out who would purpose)
Me: No, but...you're on the right path.
Mom: Cassie tell my daughter I hate guessing.
Cassie: You heard her.
Me: Well, um, the thing is...uh...see here's the thing
Mom: Did you kill someone?
Me: What?! No! Of course not. Not this week anyways.
Mom: Ok then, just tell me. Come on, you weren't this nervous when you told me you were gay.
Me: I'm pregnant.
Mom: Seriously?
Me: I brought a test, I could go pee on it if you want proof.
Mom: Either Cassie has a big secret or....whose the father? How did this happen?
Me: Well, funny story. Lets just say, big fight, lots of shots, sex with BD, make up with Cassie, a couple of weeks later, positive pregnancy test.
Mom: Ok. We're happy?
Me and Cassie: Very. *dopey lovey dovey look at each other*
Mom: Alright then. Also, Riley, darling, you're a terrible liar.
Me: Wait, what?
Mom: I've known for weeks. Or at least suspected. There's been the throwing up, the tirdness, the prenanal vitemans, the fact that you cried about loving your dog, it really isn't rocket science dear.
Me: But, how, I mean...I'm with Cassie! You didn't even know about me and BD!
Mom: I choose not to think about your sex life. Maybe you're swingers or something. I don't know. I don't want to know.
So, overall everything went smoothly. On sunday we got breakfest and had a long talk. She wanted to make sure I was making the choice I wanted to make, not the one Cassie wanted me to make, or the one I felt obligated to make. I reassured her, this is what I wanted. She did tell me it'd be a cold day in hell before she wears a #1 Grandma t-shirt. I was ok with that. Really ok with that. She also told me she was going to use my kid to get to see kid movies, and that she hopes my kid is just like me. I told her I hope s/he is just like me too...full of awesomeness.
She's not exactly bouncing off the walls with joy or anything. And she's mentioned she feels too young to be a grandma (she's 41, she'll be 42 when baby is born...so it's not like she's wrong), but then I did the math and pointed out my grandma was 35 when I was born. So it could've been worse. So, she's a little better now.
Well, great! It sounds like it went well. I'm sure it's a relief to have that off your chest!
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This made me laugh out loud! Your mom sounds like a hoot. Maybe it's just the way you typed it, but she sounds like she has a great attitude. I'm glad you got it out in the open.
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This made me laugh out loud! Your mom sounds like a hoot. Maybe it's just the way you typed it, but she sounds like she has a great attitude. I'm glad you got it out in the open.
She generally does, and we both have very similar senses of humor, so there's a lot of joking. I was more nervous because of comments she's said about her friend's kids who've had kids. But she told me it's different with me because I have a partner who supports me, a real job, and I'm actual grown up (no I'm not, I refuse to accept it), and her friend's kids keep moving back in with their kids. Yeah...that won't be me. She drives me batty with telling me how to take care of my dog (trust me I'm one of those people who spends more time researching my dog's food then my own, I'm good pet parent), I don't even try it with a kid. Which she gets. She lived with her mom when I was a baby, my grandma drove her batty.
She says she wants to be called something other Grandma though. She says its "too old fashioned".
Wow, awesome. That's great that your mom is open-minded. Yours went better than when I told my mom...and I'm in a committed relationship for the past three years, with a two year old daughter , so it's not like she's not already used to being a grandma at 50!
Wow, awesome. That's great that your mom is open-minded. Yours went better than when I told my mom...and I'm in a committed relationship for the past three years, with a two year old daughter , so it's not like she's not already used to being a grandma at 50!
Well, Cassie and I have been together for almost 3 years...so I think that helped her deal too. She adores Cassie.
Hope your mom gets better! Especailly since she's already a grandma!
Sounds like she took it pretty well! I have to say your post makes me feel OLD! I'm almost the same age as your mom, but she's becoming a grandma and I'm still havin babies!!
Anyway, I hear all the young, hip grandmas want to be called Gigi or G.G. (short for gorgeous grandma)
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thank you so much Helen!
I'm glad you got it out in the open. 
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