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I'm nervous too! No matter what anyone tells me it still doesn't help because *I* don't know what it feels like or what it'll feel like for *me*, just them. I also don't handle pain well. Just hoping I can handle it until I get my epi-which I will definately be getting unless it's absolutely too late. I think all FTMs are nervous.
I'm nervous too, and I've been through it before. I'm not afraid of the pain really, but more of the circumstance. I like to plan, and the unknowns are what make me nervous. I was induced last time, so if I go into labor on my own, I'm sure I'll feel a little freaked out too.
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I'm not a FTM, but I am actually more nervous this time. (I think I was just clueless last time, which may have been a good thing for my anxiety) I just keep telling myself that as long as baby gets here and we are both healthy, who cares how it happens...natural, induction, C-section, ect. I just want a healthy boy and mom and nothing else will matter after I see his little face.
Honestly? Back labor had to be some of the worst pain I've ever experienced. I believe that is from having a posterior baby. If baby doesn't turn by the time you have your induction...thank goodness for epidurals? But babies do turn all the time, so maybe you'll get lucky
Totally normal to be nervous! Even if you've been through it before, there are so many unknowns. But like someone else said...keep focusing on that healthy baby at the end, and try not to stress too much about how she will get here (I know...easier said than done).
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I was so nervous too ... I do NOT handle pain well at all! However, in the moment its different, your body just reacts. My 1st epi failed & I was feeling everything ... it was horrible, I was shaking, puking, etc. Somehow I got through it ... the 2nd epi worked & the only time I felt pain after was when it was time to push ... by that time Iwas so determined to get her out I just went with it & forgot the pain
Pitocin contractions suck way more than labor that starts naturally, so avoid that if you can or if you want to make it easier on yourself. To help turn a sunny side up baby hang out on all 4s, I've been watching tv while leaning over my exercise ball, mop your floors on all 4s etc. Keep your water bag intact, unless your waters break on its own of course, otherwise the longer your water stays intact the more wiggle room the baby has to turn on her own. Try to remain active, your movements will help put baby in better position.
It's completely normal to be nervous. I have been more nervous with each labor, I think. Honestly, my first was my best because I had no idea what to expect. I'm worse off knowing what's coming sometimes.
And as many others have said, of course baby can flip. I had one that they turned as we delivered because she was face-up. By that point, you won't care!
I had back labor last time. I second the no drugs- it would've made it impossible. As it was, it ended up really not being that bad during, and totally worth it in the end. Don't be nervous. Remember that women have been doing this for all time!! We were MADE to do this- we are stronger and more capable than we, and our doctors, give ourselves credit for.
I guess I'm a BTDT mom now for this part....
... Since I just went through it and everything is still fresh in my mind I would give you the following advice..
Allow yourself to be nervous.. its ok.. its a MAJOR event that's about to happen. Just don't freak yourself out too much because no matter HOW BAD it is pain wise, you get through it. Just keep telling yourself that through it all.." I can get through this.. I can get through this." That helped keep me sane!!
Don't try to be a hero on the pain meds front.. If you feel like you can't take it ASK FOR an EPI!!! I didn't allow them to give me any of the other pain meds to "take the edge off" until I could get an epi. But WHILE my epi was working it was bliss.. AND I got to sleep more and it calmed me down a lot and even helped my blood pressure lower. You can't beat that!!!
!!!!!AVOID PITOCIN IF YOU CAN!!!!!!!! The contactions from pitocin are SO MUCH worse. I had time to feel my regular contractions and time to experience the ones from pitocin without any pain meds and they are NIGHT and DAY! The pitocin contractions spike so quickly and so sharply.. It didn't take me long after they started pitocin for me to ask for my Epi! My Epi decided to fail unfortunately much later and I got to experience what transition on pitocin is like and let me tell you... I was like "SCREW THAT NO DRUGS BS!!!" *lol* It's great for women who do not need pitocin to say don't use any pain meds, but if you DOOO need pitocin, let yourself be ok with getting the Epi if you feel you need it! (Hell let yourself be ok with the epi even if you don't get pitocin and you feel you need it!) I wouldn't wish that kind of pain on ANYONE, EVER!! I have a high pain tolerance too and I was starting to lose touch with reality towards the end there. That's how bad it was! My mother had to keep snapping me back to keep me lucid!! Being in that state doesn't help you or the baby.
Most women who get an epi don't have a problem with it failing and it makes ALL of the difference. So get your pain meds if YOU feel you need it. NO ONE ELSE'S advice should matter but yours as you know what you CAN and CAN'T take pain wise.
But again.. remember that it doesn't last forever and your body CAN get through it and when that baby gets here suddenly all will be right with the world!!