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So I'm stepping in to say (because akwardly lurking is just weird) and type out my very long intro, because of course my pregnancy has a back story...a long confusing back story.
Let's start with something short for those who don't want to read the long version (I don't blame you, I'd probably skip it too). I'm Riley, and I'm pregnant and based on when I think my last period was, I'm due to have something human around April 4th. My girlfriend is Cassie (Cass, or Mama Cass when I'm being silly), and this is a total suprirse and completely unplanned. See now you want to read the long version, don't you? Cause you're like "What? Lesbians with unplanned pregnancies? How does that happen!?", I know I'd get you roped into the long version.
So, here we go. Cassie and I have been together for 2.5 wonderful happy years (we've known each other for 6), we plan to get married eventually and are buying a house together. But this summer, well we had a bit of a fight. Over...I seriously cannot tell you what. Something really stupid. It was one of thsoe fights you have, because there are underlying problems you haven't addressed and this is just the straw that finally breaks that poor camel's back. So we broke up. And I behaved in a very mature fashion and went out with a bunch of my friends and got trashed. Maturely of course. Then I made the very mature decsion to have very drunken sex with my equally maturley trashed male friend. Dum, dum dum.
The next morning I woke up, realized I wanted to still be with Cassie, and called her to tell her exactly what I'd done. We met, talked for a long time about our various problems, and she forgave me for my drunken mistaken. She almost made one as well with a girl...but then passed out drunk in the hallway of her friend's house. See how mature and ready to have children we are!
We return to blissfully happy, things are bit akward with my friend for all of five minutes before we all decide to just forget about because seriously how many stupid things have we all done while drunk. At least no one took pictures of this one. Flash forward to last weekend and I feel like crap. I'm a teacher (I know, they let me work with children, I'm shocked too), so I'm complaining to my friend that of course I get sick before school starts back. And she jokingly says "Maybe Cassie knocked you up" and I laughed cause girl can't get other girls pregnant. Then I remember...boys can. And I went and had sex with a boy. Oh dear.
So I finally get the nerve up to take a pregnancy test yesterday (I excel in procrastination, I'm gonna list it under special skills on my resume...someday). And hey, wouldn't you know it, I'm knocked up. Ya know, my mom always told me it just took one time, but I was pretty sure she was just trying to scare me from having sex. Apparently, she wasn't joking. I was pretty sure it'd be positive anyways, once I figured out I was late, and throwing up, and generally feeling all kinds of knocked up.
I told Cassie this morning. Actually I did something cute because I was hoping she'd be happy. We went to Starbucks this morning and while she was in the bathroom I ordered for us and got an empty cup, which I put a new pregnancy test in (I took just before we left the house), and dropped in there. Then handed it to her, so when she went to get her creamer and sugar she saw it and was like "Uh, babe? Does this mean what I think?" and sure enough, she's thrilled. There may have been screaming and jumping. We knew we wanted kids eventually, but we were thinking like in 5 years. And that we'd adopt (neither of us had wanted to get knocked up, and Cassie was adopted, so we were all for it). But yeah, this works too.
The baby daddy doesn't know yet, and I have no idea how I'll tell him or how he'll react (he has no desire to have kids anytime soon, if at all). Or how anyone else will react for that matter. I don't even want to think about my mom's reaction. But knowing I have Cassie on my team, makes it a little easier.
Ok, cookies and cupcakes for everyone who got through all that. And please, feel free to ask questions. I'm sure there are several, lord knows I'd have questions.
Thanks ladies! I'm hoping it goes very smoothly. He's a cool guy, pretty much has the philosiphy of "Just let life happen", so hoping he embraces that and doesn't freak out too much (some freaking out understandable).
My mother is going to flip out. She has a friend who has two daughters with 7 kids between them (one as 3 the other 4), she's always going on about how she thought they were smart girls, and how now they've ruined their lives, and that they've settled themselves with terrible guys. Their husbands are pretty awful (one cheats, the other is emotionally controling and abusive) and they did have their children very young. I'm hoping she sees my situation differently (she adores cassie, I've been to college, ect). The sucky part is I currently live with her (another long story), so I won't be able to keep it quiet for long.
Wow...congrats to you! I hope your mom takes it well...and yeah, won't be able to hide that from her for long! Maybe she'll react better than you think she might, with the prospect of being a grandmother on the horizon.
I'm hoping so! Some of my high school friends have had babies (we aren't close anymore, more of just FB friends now), and she's kind of freaked about the idea of being a grandma. But then she's around little kids and is like 'Hm, maybe I could be grandma'. I won't be reyling on her for babysitting (a lot of my FB friends and her friend's kids rely on their parents for free babysitting), and we are buying a house together (GF and I). So I'm hoping she'll be ok. Or even just eventually be ok. She does say she's too young to be a grandma, which ok she is, but that isn't my fault, she had me young.
quite a story (reminds me of grey's anatomy lol) congrats either way
I'm going to have to tell Cassie that! We don't watch it, but one of our friends is forever comparing us to the lesbians on there (Callie and Arizona I wanna say), though she can't tell us exactly why were like them (aside from, DGF looks a little like Arizona (she's blond) and I look a little like the other girl (I'm darker skinnned) so obviously just like them).
Ok, girlfriend is more excitied then me! We're trying to get this house (there's only one other bid and it way under asking price), so she texted me asking which room I though we should baby in and how we should decorate it.
Hm, lets focus on getting the house and getting through the first trimester, then we decorate!
Congrats! Your story would make a good book or movie. Interesting.
I think we could be a soap opera story line! Though, I think baby daddy would need to be girlfriend's long lost twin brother and someone would have to join the mob. Oh, and it'd have to twin babies. And someone would have to put a hit on me, oh I could be the one in the mob and another mob family could put a hit on me!
Ok, I've watched too much daytime TV. Time for school to start back up.