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New here, this is my first post. I just got a positive pregnancy test yesterday, 12DPO, AF is not due until 9/19 though. I am feeling all over the place about my emotions of having a baby. My first emotion was "oh S#*@...here we go!" and then my next emotion was that I was going to throw up. Today, I am feeling a bit more relaxed about it, but am still moving from so anxious (I even had a dream last night about un-doing this pregnancy--crazy right??) to mildly excited...the strangest thing for me is that I feel like should be more excited, especially since me and my hubby have been excited and planning for the last few months? I almost feel schizophrenic! Anyone else have these same thoughts?
Hi and welcome! It is overwhelming at first but once it sinks in you will be overjoyed! You just have to get used to seeing yourself and your husband in your new roles and mommy and daddy. Welcome and we are here when you need support!
Melissa, Mommy to Grady James, 4-4-13
Congrats on your BFP and welcome! Don't feel guilty about your anxiety! I literally laid down in the floor and cried the first time I got pregnant, and it was very planned. It's okay to feel nervous because you know your life will change, even though its a great change, change is usually scary! Trust me, when you see that little heart beating for all its worth you will be in love and will start getting more excited. And those little kicks and nudges in 2nd tri will just help!
I know how you are feeling. We planned this pregnancy but when I saw the test actually say positive I almost fell into the toilet. I was so nervous about what everyone would say and how they would feel. Well after some positive reactions and negative I have decided to just worry about how I feel about everything. I know once we both see the baby on u/s that we will be thrilled though. Congrats and I am sure you will feel less nervous soon.
I cried too the first time I found out I was pregnant with DS. I was terrified, wondering if this was the right decision! Same with us, it was very planned! This is a very normal reaction. It will get better!
I was seven or eight months pregnant with DD and still occasionally thinking oh ****, what have we done? We tried for almost two years to get pregnant so she was very planned. I think it's a completely normal part of being pregnant to think about how your life is going to change and to be a bit nervous.
Agree totally with the above!
And along with the nervousness about bringing a new life into this world, you get all the rising hormones that make you so emotional, and your emotions become almost unrecognizable anymore from the old you.
I cry at the littlest things and I've worried a lot about this very wanted pregnancy as well! Just give yourself time to adjust, you don't have to be Super Mommy just yet
it is totally normal! getting pregnant, especially for the first time, comes with a LOT of up and down emotions. I'm on my third and I still think to myself "can we really do this? are we actually going to be able to handle 3 kids financially? physically?" and then the next minute I am daydreaming about what it will be like with a new baby in the house. most, if not all, women do this. it's such a wonderful time!
Lori wife toChris, mom toRebecca (11.22.07), Nathan (7.31.10), & Thomas (5.3.13)
I'm still having "Oh crap!" moments every now and then. I agree with the above ladies that it is completely normal. Having a baby is a completely life changing event, especially for first time mothers. I think that it is only natural to wonder what you have gotten yourself into.
I wanted this baby more than life itself, but I am petrified everyday, of so many things! Can I do this? What about my life? Is the baby OK? etc etc. I think it's totally normal, but just wanted to say I can relate!
Last edited by JandJC; September 17th, 2012 at 02:07 PM.
For over 4 years we tried to get pregnant from Clomid cycles all the way to a failed IVF cycle. We decided in July we were going to try again with medicated cycles in January so we have really been NTNP but without medications I really never thought I had a chance. I did a vitamin regime this cycle but did not think that soy would work for me BUT IT did Now that I have my BFP I am scared S***less!! LOL
I'm also scared about this pregnancy like the other ladies said all sorts of things worry u this is our second and was also planned took us a year to get pregnant but I'm also scared can I cope with two but I'm also very excited x
I have felt similarly in the past, but more so after DS was already born! I'm sure much of that had to do with the usual "baby blues", but I literally would have moments where I'd sit and wonder, "What did I get myself into?!!" Needless to say, those feelings do subside. I think a lot of the anxiety stems from all the not knowing of what to expect. Even with this pregnancy I worry how another child will change the dynamics of our family, especially since DS has been the only child for six almost seven years now. I think these feelings are normal, though, because having a baby IS a huge life-changing experience that understandably conjures up a bunch of mixed emotions. I don't think it means you want or love this baby any less than you did when you were planning for him/her, but it might take a while for you to get used to the reality that s/he is now on the way .