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I have been reading a lot about NCB to prepare myself and one thing that keeps coming up is that unwelcome visitors can actually make you cease to progress.
I want to post a sign on the labor and delivery door that says "FRIENDS AND FAMILY please knock and someone will come to the door to let you in" that way my husband and mom can handle crowd control and let people know they need to wait in the waiting room until we are ready for them to come see little one.
I wouldnt tell anyone I was in labor til after baby was born. People will be texting ur phone and bothering you asking is the baby here yet and they can become quite impatient even tho babies come when they want. I learned from that mistake with my first and I didn't tell anyone with my second besides my sister and dad bcuz I knew they couldn't come. My mom n hubby were with me while I delivered and it was nice.
Oh yes, I am not planning on telling anyone other than my in laws and my parents. Unfortunately, that means that my dad and my husband's parents will be in the waiting room. Also afterwards, I want time to nurse before people start coming in.
Putting a sign wouldn't hurt anything, but as someone who works in a hospital I can tell you there are plenty of people who will read a sign and go in anyway assuming it's for everyone but them. It might be more helpful to have somebody watching the door to keep people from just going in anyway.
When I was in the hospital with my son the nurse always asked before they let people come in my room. But yes a sign would be fine, that way the nurses also will know your wishes and can help keep people out of your room until you're ready for them. I would also have whoever is in there with you be willing to get mean if they need to so you can have your privacy.
We didn't tell anyone we were at the hospital until after DD was born. it was perfect!!! If that won't work for you, I think telling a nurse would probably be more helpful than a sign. I'd be afraid that people would assume it meant everyone but them.
Just tell your nurse and ask her to tell the reception desk clerk. That way, when someone wants to come back, the reception lady will ask your nurse if it's okay for whoever to come back. If you don't want visitors during labor, they'll just say they're checking you or doing a procedure or something.
When I had DS, I asked to be registered as a confidential patient because I worked at the hospital and I didn't want everyone I knew coming up to see me. I wanted it to be private. I'm delivering at the same hospital and I'm still gonna ask to be registered that way. Only my husband and my parents will allowed to come into the room.
I'm weird when it comes to birthing and visitors. I'll let people know when I'm in labor however, I also tell them that I'll call to let them know once baby is there and when I'll be comfortable to have visitors. I understand people want to see the baby, but they need to understand that I just pushed something out my vagina and I'll be exposed every 2-3 hours trying to get baby latched properly and making sure baby is eating/gaining. I'm just not shy when it comes to me needed to "schedule" people in for visits at the hospital. If people do show up unannounced I'm not shy about nursing, I'll leave my boob plopped out without cover because nursing is more important that the visitor. If it makes them uncomfortable they can step out until we're done. There is no way I'm unlatching baby for them.
I wouldn't tell anyone either! I only wanted my mom, stepdad, bro and husband at the hospital last time....
all we did was post something on fbook saying I was in labor and DH's brother and now ex-wife showed up and waited ALL day! They didn't even know what hospital we were delivering at or from this town or anything. It was not cool. After delivering you have that hour bonding time anyway Let that be special with just you, DH and baby