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I've been worrying about how it's going to be with a newborn at home and a toddler who still needs me during the night. Last night Ethan woke up 4 times calling for Mommy. Usually it's not that many times but he has a bit of a cold. At least now he isn't waking up screaming/crying like he had been doing for a stretch. I could only guess he was having bad dreams at that point. He hasn't been doing that for about a week now. But it could recur I'm sure.
Anyway I wonder if any of you had older children with sleeping issues at the same time as you had a newborn? I want to be there for my buddy but I also know I'm going to be a lot less available at night because of the newborn. At least DH is going to be working close to home now so he will be home nights to share in the glory of newborn-ness! Maybe I can get him to get up for Ethan while I stay in bed next to Kody.
I'm actually worried about the same thing. DS just started sleeping in his own big boy bed in his room. Prior to that we were co-sleeping. When he wakes up in the middle of the night, I usually just bring him into our bed, so I can get some sleep.
When baby gets here, I'm worried that DS will want to sleep with us halfway through the night, and then the new baby will end up waking him up for feedings. Ugh. DS was never a good sleeper, but at least now he only wake up once or twice. And DH is incredibly hard to wake up...you could probably start a chainsaw next to his head and he'd sleep right through it.
I guess I'll just play it by ear...I'm slightly terrified anyway about just having a toddler and a newborn at the same time (in general)....so many things to figure out!!
Yeah those are the exact same things I'm worried about. I don't cosleep with DS, but only because DH got fed up with a year of that at the beginning. Plus DS is an active sleeper so he would wake me up far too often. But whenever he needs me in the middle of the night, I get out of bed to go see what's the matter. As a child I had nightmares all the time and I don't want my son to feel like Mommy's not there for him if he needs me. I want him to feel safe and cared for. He usually wakes at least once or twice a night, sometimes more, sometimes (if I'm lucky) not at all. He just got his bed converted recently too, from crib to toddler bed. So I'm more than a little nervous about how it will be with a newborn.
I worry that he will need me and I won't be able to go to him, or that he will be jealous of the baby getting me all night, etc etc. I kind of have in the back of my head the possibility that I could put a little sleep mat down for DS in our room so he could feel included. I'm going to have to play it by ear too!
I have a little bassinet for the baby, he'll sleep right next to my side of the bed. I would probably co-sleep with him if we had a king size bed, we have a queen though and I know DH would put his foot down about it. If I had the money, I'd get one of those co-sleeper beds that attach to the side of the adult bed.
I bet you're right, and I'm probably obsessing over nothing!
I personally never had that problem, every time he would move I would wake up. I still do that with him 3 years later! That's why he can't sleep with us anymore, lol. He rolls over in his sleep and I wake up instantly, making sure he's ok. Meanwhile, he's still asleep. Hah!
They say some people should not cosleep, say if you take meds or are a heavy sleeper. Worked for us though. The main reason I did it was because he was such a fussy sleeper for the first year. I mean like waking every 45 minutes, crying, all night long, kind of fussy. I was majorly sleep deprived until he started sleeping better.
I'm worried about this myself. DS is a great sleeper now, we had to do cry it out when he was almost a year old. I'm worried that the baby's room being right beside his room that he will be woken up at night. He was a horrible sleeper until we did CIO and now he loves his bed and loves to sleep. He actually asks to go night night now when he would fuss and cry before. I really don't want him to go back to being a horrible sleeper!