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With BF'ing. I can't do it anymore. I ended up EPing for my oldest daughter, and that's what I'm going to do for Lilah. I EP'd for my oldest for a year, and had a massive supply, no issues, she never had formula, and had a chest freezer full of milk.
Lilah was up every 40 min last night to eat. My nipples are excruciatingly sore to the point where I am kicking my feet and crying when she latches (possibly thrush, going to the dr today to get them looked at!), she seems hungry all the time and cries when she comes off the breast and starts eating her hand, I am DEAD tired. With two other kids to look after, I just can't sit on the couch all day long nursing, which is what I've been having to do. I think the two biggest factors for me are the horrible pain, and the frequency in which she wants to nurse...it is constant, especially at night.
So....I'm just going to EP. I'm home so much anyway, that pumping every 3hrs or so for the first 12 weeks isn't THAT big of a deal, and I'll get up twice in the night to pump too for the first 12 weeks to establish a really good supply hopefully.
It was a hard decision, but as long as she's getting my milk, I don't care how she gets it at this point.
Good for you. You have certainly done your absolute best to get nursing to work for you. At some point, you have to move on to the next option so that you can be rested enough to take care of yourself and your kiddos. I hope that you get a great night's sleep tonight and that you are feeling better soon.
I wouldn't feel bad about it either. I'd be throwing in the towel too, if I had going on what you do. Some babies just like to sit and nibble all day long and if you're already sore, it's awful when they never seem happy except at the breast. I hope EP'ing works well for you---sounds like you will do great!
I'm about ready to follow your lead myself. Out of nowhere my left breast nipple pain has flared up. I can't sit on the couch all day nursing either. I'm opening up my free breast pump this week. The only concern I have is whether or not it's actually more work to pump and bottle feed? I just want the easiest path possible right now.
^ It's easier in some aspects, and harder in others.
Easier because DH can help with night feedings (HUGE plus for me), you don't have to nurse in public, pumping takes 15 min out of your day each session and then it's done for a few hours, you can see exactly how much the baby is getting, it doesn't hurt.
Harder because you have to pump and take time out to do that, you need to take your pump with you if you're going somewhere for a day, you need to pump at night during the first 12 weeks to establish a good supply (I pump while DH feeds the baby when she wakes at night), you have to make/warm/clean bottles.
For me, the positives outweigh the negatives though. I just CAN'T sit on the couch nursing all day when I have a 4 1/2 and 2 yr old to look after too. I can't be up all night, every night, then be a mom of 3 during the days.....maybe some women can, but I need some sleep. I can't handle feeding her with super sore nipples - I spend my days dreading feeding her, which is NO fun.
i am in exactly the same boat! I was also absolutely dreading every time he woke because I knew the excruciating pain was on the way. Eventually DH could not handle the tears anymore and forbid me to BF anymore. I am now also EPing and things are much better. As much of a pain as expressing is, I no longer resent my baby when he needs to eat and am no longer in tears all the time. As long as they getting BM it doesn't matter how they get it. I am using lanolin cream and going for infrared light to toughen my nipples up so I can try again but if it doesn't work I will have no problem EPing. Well done for not giving up entirely!
I think we might be headed that way, as well. We're only 4 days in, but Claire refuses to latch on my nipple. I have flat nipples, and she doesn't quite open her mouth up enough to get my aureola in there. Even with the nipple shield, she kind of freaks out when we try to get her on. So we've been pumping and finger feeding.
I'm hoping hoping hoping she'll learn to latch soon, but if not, I'm ok with EPing and bottle/finger feeding.