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I'm dying here. Lilah is AWFUL every. single. night. She is good up until her first feeding. Around 1 or 2am she wakes, eats, poops, we change her, then she's up for 2 - 2 1/2 hrs. She's fussy, she's tired but won't sleep, she'll have a happy phase where she's just wired right up and shrieking. It's getting VERY old VERY fast. Last night I was up from 1:30am - 4am. Then she was up for another feed at 5:30am (because even though she didn't go to sleep until 4am, she had eaten at 1:30am...). Then she went back to sleep, but I had to get up to pump, and then my 4 yr old got up.
I'm getting barely ANY sleep. I don't know how to teach Lilah to SLEEP after a bottle!
I don't know how you feel about "cry it out" but maybe you could try this variation of it if you don't feel comfortable with it: When she wakes up, do the change and feed then just sit there with her in the complete dark. No lights- no TV and no talking and no playing with her. She will start to learn that nighttime is boring and for SLEEP. She will probably cry and scream (but you will be holding her) until she finally falls asleep. Repeat every time she wakes up. It might take a few nights for her to figure it out, but she'll get there.
It will be VERY hard on you, because you'll be exhausted and just want her to stop crying- but stick with it- it will be worth the few days or week of hello to get her adjusted!
^ That's pretty much what we do. We don't leave our bedroom, keep the lights off, don't really talk, etc. I walk around with her, changing positions, and she does cry and fuss constantly....I have NO clue what she wants. She isn't catching on to the whole night time is for sleeping thing - she has these awake periods around the clock it seems.
We have a similar problem with Misha-- just cannot get him to understand that nighttime is for sleeping more than 2 hours at a time. It's super frustrating because he eats a ton before going to bed and e change him and it often seems like he should sleep for awhile... but then he doesn't.
If you and your husband can take shifts so one night he's up with her and the next it's you, it might help you get some sleep at least once in awhile, instead of never. But I totally understand how difficult it is to sleep through something like that, even if you know they're being taken care of.
I wonder, would it work at all to delay the feeding that she's wanting when she first wakes at 1am? Maybe let her fuss/cry a bit and then feed her, maybe she'll wear herself out fussing and want to sleep after she finally eats? I dunno Erin, that sounds awful and I'm sorry you are not sleeping!
Kieran did this. I wish I had advice. He just stopped at some point. In my sleepy haze, I don't recall when. But I think before 3 months (I know, still not helping). We called it his "witching hours" because they were almost always from 2-5am. And then Liam woke up at 6. I remember spending a lot of time crying in those months. We thought Kierans was related to belly upset, since he almost always pooped before he went down again. But I can't even remember if I did anything about it that helped. So sorry