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So this may seem strange since most of our babies are 3 months old but me and my SO finally dtd after 12 wks and it was pretty sore did anybody else experience this and does it get better also we didn't use any protection and I've been very bad at taking my pill maybe shouldn't have been so reckless anybody else have any oopsies so far
It's still a little sore for me from time to time. Basically just the place where I tore can get a little tender afterwards if we're not careful.
I did a few "oopsies" at the beginning before I got on the pill but now I'm pretty good about taking it on time so I don't have to worry about getting pregnant again!
I'm 11 weeks pp and we still haven't done it........I'm scared my vagina is super loose now after 3 kids and I'm actually avoiding DTD because I'm already embarrassed! I keep doing kegels because I'm paranoid!
Aw Erin! I'm sure your hubby wouldn't be worried about that! Mine wasn't, anyway, haha. I guess he's happy to get whatever he can! I'm embarassed about how my body looks and how things look down below too. The old gray mare just ain't what she used to be! But, we still get it on.
Yup. I tore with both kids, worse with the first, and only a handful of stitches with this one, but yeah...it does look kinda stretched out and gross. Haha. I had to ask my OB during my PP exam because I wasn't sure it was "normal" for 6 weeks PP...she said there's a weak spot in the pelvic muscles that's causing the vag to look bulgy in one place (hope that's not TMI). Kegels supposedly should help, but who has time to remember to do them?
We've done it a few times but the first was definitely the most uncomfortable. My doctor was very clear that the first several times might hurt, but to keep at it because it will get better. Frequency has dropped considerably since after the birth-- we rarely even sleep in the same room these days (we alternate sleeping with the baby, so that at least one of us gets a full night's sleep each night).
We have only done it twice so far, the first being just over a week ago. I was afraid it would hurt a ton because it's always been rather uncomfortable and a bit painful to me, even before childbirth. It turned out to be mostly fine, though. My husband actually was worried that it wouldn't feel the same, but he said he was surprised that it did feel pretty much the same, but it doesn't look like it did before. I haven't looked myself because...I'm scared to lol.
Well, thankfully, LOOKING at it isn't required for DTD. Come on, girls, don't be scared. I've had 5 kids now, some with extraordinarily big heads, and it still feels all normal. Just don't look!
I will say though, after my 4th baby, it was somewhat painful and uncomfortable at times, and now after the 5th it is all totally back to normal. Weird that having another one could "fix" it, and what the heck changes in there anyway? So I think having a baby can make it better.
I'm sure it can! I had it go the other way after Ethan, though, it got worse. So I imagine it could go both ways.
I had a minor surgery for something else entirely (I had a problem with a ureter/kidney) and it ended up fixing the pain. I had no idea why it fixed it but I was sure happy about it!
Well I'm hoping the next time is less painful i can't remember with my daughter if it took a while to feel okay again but I'm def worried things won't be the same after having two I also think I may have been ovulating so hoping I don't have a pregnancy scare that is a crazy age gap if I was x
Just want to share that olive oil is the best post partum lube. It doesn't leave a mess and really helps things down under... especially for bfeeding mamas who might not be able to make any natural lube until they stop nursing. this was suggested by my obgyn with my 1st child. works great! the more you add the better and more comfy