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So Claire sleeps like a dream at night (knocking on wood BIG TIME that it stays that way). Naps, however, are another story. Lately she will not nap unless I'm holding her.
I don't feel comfortable with CIO, and I'm not sure I ever will be. At this point, I'm not even letting her fuss it out. I basically pick her up after a minute or so of fussing.
I go back to work next week, and she'll have other caregivers while I'm working. Obvs, not all of them will have the time to hold her all the live-long day. I'm considering letting her fuss for a bit to see if she'll self soothe at all, but I'm worried she'll be scarred for life and will one day be telling her therapist all about her horrible, neglectful mother who didn't pick her up right away. Heh.
If that were true, all my kids would be scarred for life. Don't worry, it's just not true. Letting her fuss is actually GOOD for her, because she will learn to fall asleep on her own. It's a valuable skill and helps babies sleep better in general.
Ditto what was just said...I sleep trained my son with cio, only took a couple nights and I promise he doesn't remember, he's the biggest 14yo mommas boy that you'll ever meet, along with being super smart and emotionally sound....a few tears don't hurt, promise.
Well, I'm of the mind that I'm not a fan of CIO, like yourself. If it were me I would probably just do what I had been doing all along.
What about getting a little lovey or stuffed animal, wash it, then wear it next to your skin for a day or two so it's scented like you, and then see if having that with her helps her to fall asleep? Another thought (I don't know if it will do any good, but I've tried it with my kids) is take your pillowcase, and put it under her in her bassinet/crib, so she smells you. Just ideas...
As for the caregivers, they will find their own routine with the baby. I know with me, if I were watching someone else's baby, my instinct would be to pick it up if it were crying, but I know not everyone thinks that way.