Feel free to PM anytime and I can give you my private e-mail as well. Our first son was diagnosed with PDD-NOS at 22 months of age. At age 4 that changed to Aspergers (which is very mild autism). I didn't know how to handle it at first. From the time our first child was a thought in our minds, I had planned his graduate school. The docs basically told me I should think of group homes for when he got older. We commenced 30 hours of therapy a week. Unfortunately he never had a "typical childhood". Rather we spent our time in occupational therapy, speech therapy, physicial therapy, pragmatic therapy, etc. I think I know them all. When he was not with a therapist we were doing the work. Sounds terrible I know. Here is the good news. He is 10. He is in a school for children of average and advanced intelligence. The work is well advanced over typical classes. He does it without problem. He gets upset with a test grade of 33/35. Even greater - he has some friends. This is HUGE for a child with Aspergers. He will never have a career as a politician. He is likely to have an engineering career though

The point is the news is devastating at first. Let yourself feel everything. Then know that there is HOPE. Not all outcomes are perfect. I realize that and empathize. There are cases of a great outcome though.