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October 3rd, 2012, 08:28 AM
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I'm due June 3rd. (5 Weeks now). This is my first pregnancy and it was unplanned, but we're very happy about it.

My doctor doesn't want to see me for an exam until I'm about 8 weeks and they didn't want to do any blood testing right now. Since I've never been pregnant, I don't know for sure how this is supposed to work, but I've read on here women getting blood testing to see if their hormones are doubling even before 5 weeks. Is it normal for my doctor to not want to do this? Should I find a different doctor? She said that as long as I don't have any major cramping and bleeding, that we should assume everything is okay. I'm pretty scared though, just of everything in general. It would be nice to know if my levels were doubling like they're supposed to just so I can expect the worst if that's what's going to happen.


I'm having all of the normal symptoms, mild to moderate cramping (but no bleeding), lots of nausea, general fatigue, and headaches. I've taken 4 home pregnancy tests and also went to my doctor and got a confirmation urine test. One more question I have is - I never had any implantation spotting. Is that normal? I know it can be a very small amount, but I don't recall having any spotting at all. I could've missed it, I guess.

I'm just all kinds of scared and worried and overwhelmed. The worst feeling of all? I'm so hopeful that this pregnancy works out. I know how common miscarriages are in first pregnancies, so I'm trying to remain realistic, but I've always wanted to be a mom and my partner has always wanted kids. It's hard not to get really excited. I guess that's another reason I want the bloodwork. I just want to know if things are progressing.

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October 3rd, 2012, 08:40 AM
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I know how you feel! But since it is your first pregnancy and there's no complications there really is no need for a blood test. I have a history of miscarriage and I bled this time so thats why im being watched. i didnt have implantation bleeding with ds so dont be worried about that. The wait for the first u/s seems forever!
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October 3rd, 2012, 08:42 AM
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Thats normal not to do bloodwork until then. I dont get Betas done either. Dont worry.

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October 3rd, 2012, 08:57 AM
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It's completely normal to not get bloodwork. My ob does not see anyone until week 7 or 8. Only reason I'm getting bloodwork and ultrasounds is because we went through a fertility specialist this time around to get preggo.

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October 3rd, 2012, 09:00 AM
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No reason to worry at all. The only reason I had the beta done this time is because I need proof of pregnancy (other than a home test) for medicaid coverage. With DD I already had insurance so we didn't bother; my midwives don't typically do bloodwork until 8 weeks or so.

If there is one thing I could go back in time and tell myself with my first pregnancy it would be to relax! I tend to over-analyze and obsessively research EVERYTHING, and that created a lot of unnecessary stress. There's very little about pregnancy and babies you can control, so the best thing you can do is just enjoy it. LOL I got this advice a lot with my first pregnancy but it was completely impossible for me to calm down. Best of luck to you! And welcome!
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October 3rd, 2012, 09:03 AM
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It's very common to not go in to the dr until you are a little further along. With my DS my OB didn't see me until 10 weeks. With this one I am going in next week (I will be 6 weeks) but its just for confirmation of the pregnancy and paperwork. I didn't have implantation bleeding either. The best thing to do is just try to relax. I know it's easier said then done and I have to tell myself this all the time

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October 3rd, 2012, 09:06 AM
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First, very few women get implantation bleeding.

I never got betas with Elizabeth - I generally prefer pretty low tech care and had no signs of anything wrong. Second pregnancy, I could tell things weren't progressing right and I had about 8 million betas. That sucked. This pregnancy I had no plans for a beta until I bled like crazy, *sigh*. So yeah, you don't need it if everything is swimming along.
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October 3rd, 2012, 03:25 PM
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Great question, eshute. I was wondering some of the same things.
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October 3rd, 2012, 04:21 PM
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My doctor doesnt normally see patients untol 8 weeks because then they can get a heartbeat and all that. There is no real reason to go sooner unless you have an issue. I didnt get betas with my first but this time i needed my pegesterone checked cause i have a history of low pogesterone and i have to take supplements.

My first is five months old and I was so worried something would go wrong too. Once you have your appointment and you hear the heartbeat you will feel better! Its rough the first few weeks wondering if everything is okay. Your symptoms are a good sign, though if you didnt have them it wouldnt mean things are wrong. Hang in there! Im worry something will go wrong with this pregnancy all the time too...thats just being a mom lol.
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October 4th, 2012, 05:30 AM
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I think it's very normal, and you shouldn't worry! I know it's a tough wait, but you'll get through it. I've never had my beta levels drawn, not with my son, and I won't with this one. So, for a while there I kind of have a bad habit of using dollar store pee sticks to sort of "track" how things are going. It always makes me feel better to see those lines!
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October 4th, 2012, 05:48 AM
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Yup as the other ladies told you it its normal!!!

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October 4th, 2012, 09:11 AM
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ditto everyone else. congrats. we are here for you
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October 5th, 2012, 08:18 AM
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Originally Posted by Melliesbelly View Post
I think it's very normal, and you shouldn't worry! I know it's a tough wait, but you'll get through it. I've never had my beta levels drawn, not with my son, and I won't with this one. So, for a while there I kind of have a bad habit of using dollar store pee sticks to sort of "track" how things are going. It always makes me feel better to see those lines!
Thanks!! I've been wanting to get some dollar store pee sticks myself and thought it was crazy. I'm glad I'm not the only one!!

Thank you everyone for your replies, they've made me feel much better!!
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