Log In Sign Up

Break up.


Forum: June 2013 Playroom

Notices

Welcome to the JustMommies Message Boards.

We pride ourselves on having the friendliest and most welcoming forums for moms and moms to be! Please take a moment and register for free so you can be a part of our growing community of mothers. If you have any problems registering please drop an email to boards@justmommies.com.

Our community is moderated by our moderation team so you won't see spam or offensive messages posted on our forums. Each of our message boards is hosted by JustMommies hosts, whose names are listed at the top each board. We hope you find our message boards friendly, helpful, and fun to be on!

Like Tree10Likes

Reply Post New Topic
  Subscribe To June 2013 Playroom LinkBack Topic Tools Search this Topic Display Modes
  #1  
October 14th, 2012, 08:03 PM
eshute's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
Join Date: Oct 2012
Location: Pittsburgh, PA
Posts: 1,573
I get home tonight and my SO needs to talk. He tells me that we haven't known each other very long and that he doesn't know if he loves me. He wants to work on our friendship so that we can be there for the baby, but he doesn't want to be romantically involved. I'm so devastated.
__________________


Reply With Quote
  #2  
October 14th, 2012, 08:08 PM
MrsLat's Avatar Sept 2014 DDC Co-host
Join Date: Oct 2012
Posts: 3,519
Oh Sweetie! I am so soooo sorry That is horrible. I will hope that everything works out okay and he comes around. For his sake, yours and that little baby's.
__________________
~*Valerie*~
JaxonJocelyn Gabriel Grayson and due in September!


Reply With Quote
  #3  
October 14th, 2012, 08:12 PM
Hopeful2BMommy's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
Join Date: Aug 2012
Posts: 1,925
Praying for you. Maybe the news has just scared him. I hope you are okay.
__________________
I'm Amy
Delight yourself in the LORD, and He will give you the desires of your heart. Psalm 37:4
Reply With Quote
  #4  
October 14th, 2012, 08:12 PM
~*Kudzu*~'s Avatar ~praying for a miracle~
Join Date: Oct 2010
Location: North Pole, AK
Posts: 1,177
He's probably just needing time to adjust.. will this be his first baby? That can make a huge difference to a guy. I hope it turns out to be just a bump on an otherwise long and peaceful road for the two (soon to be three) of you!
__________________
Thank you *Kiliki* for my beautiful siggy!!









10/2001 09/2002 05/2003 01/2011 10/2012
Reply With Quote
  #5  
October 14th, 2012, 08:13 PM
lalap's Avatar Super Teacher
Join Date: Oct 2012
Posts: 509
Wow. I don't know what to say. I'm so sorry you are going through this. However, you can do this. We're women. We're better and stronger. I'm praying that everything works out in the best possible way for you and your baby.
Reply With Quote
  #6  
October 14th, 2012, 09:27 PM
navywifey2003's Avatar Home Birth Mama
Join Date: Dec 2007
Location: Clovis, CA
Posts: 36,810
Send a message via AIM to navywifey2003
I am so sorry. I hope that over time you can build a friendship and put the relationship back together.
__________________



Reply With Quote
  #7  
October 14th, 2012, 09:27 PM
eshute's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
Join Date: Oct 2012
Location: Pittsburgh, PA
Posts: 1,573
Thanks everyone. I've been cramping since it happened. Just trying to calm down. I know I'll be okay, but it's really hard right now.
__________________


Reply With Quote
  #8  
October 14th, 2012, 11:14 PM
Lauren
Join Date: Apr 2011
Location: Portland, Oregon
Posts: 597
I'm sorry, that really sucks.
Reply With Quote
  #9  
October 14th, 2012, 11:57 PM
8miraclez's Avatar Formerly Halfbaked
Join Date: Jul 2007
Posts: 7,469
__________________


To read updates about our baby born with major birth defects, like our Facebook page
Reply With Quote
  #10  
October 15th, 2012, 02:12 AM
Steph625's Avatar Super Mommy
Join Date: Oct 2012
Location: South Bloomfield, Ohio
Posts: 792
Reading that just made my stomache turn! I can't tell you how AWEFUL I feel for you. I went through a similar situation with my daughters father. I only knew him 3 months before getting pregnant. He wanted to to get an abortion and I refused. We had that same "break up" talk but had decided to stick it out for the same of the baby. And we stick it out for almost 10 years and looking back, I WISH we had broken up! He was never there for me or the baby. Never touched my preggo belly, never changed a diaper, never did a feeding. I know it hurts now but you never know if this is going to end up in a blessing. I know when I broke up with her father (finally after many years), I met the most AMAZING man ever. I pray for the best for you and your baby! Many hugs your way!
mommy_to_nico and Gen88 like this.
Reply With Quote
  #11  
October 15th, 2012, 02:46 AM
mommy220's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
Join Date: Jul 2012
Posts: 1,191
I am so sorry, that is terrible.
__________________

Reply With Quote
  #12  
October 15th, 2012, 02:58 AM
Platinum Supermommy
Join Date: Apr 2007
Posts: 12,271
I'm sorry, that is a lot to take in. I hope you both an figure out what's best for the three of you
__________________


16 weeks
4 weeks
8 weeks
Reply With Quote
  #13  
October 15th, 2012, 03:50 AM
TeresaV's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
Join Date: May 2012
Location: NY State
Posts: 1,690
I'm so sorry to hear this. I hope he comes around. Best of luck to you.
__________________







Reply With Quote
  #14  
October 15th, 2012, 04:03 AM
Mega Super Mommy
Join Date: Oct 2011
Location: U.S.A.
Posts: 1,146
Ugh, I am so sorry
__________________
♥ “In our arms for a little while, in our hearts forever.” - Gabriel Reid (born still @ 20 weeks, January '13) ♥
Reply With Quote
  #15  
October 15th, 2012, 05:21 AM
eshute's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
Join Date: Oct 2012
Location: Pittsburgh, PA
Posts: 1,573
Thank you all for the kind words. What kills me is he actually asked me last night why I wouldn't get an abortion. I was stunned because he's a pretty religious guy, but he said that God would forgive us if we asked for forgiveness afterward. I just looked at him. I could never do that. I don't judge anyone for their choices, but I know I couldn't do that.
__________________


Reply With Quote
  #16  
October 15th, 2012, 05:34 AM
Steph625's Avatar Super Mommy
Join Date: Oct 2012
Location: South Bloomfield, Ohio
Posts: 792
Quote:
Originally Posted by eshute View Post
Thank you all for the kind words. What kills me is he actually asked me last night why I wouldn't get an abortion. I was stunned because he's a pretty religious guy, but he said that God would forgive us if we asked for forgiveness afterward. I just looked at him. I could never do that. I don't judge anyone for their choices, but I know I couldn't do that.
I'm proud of you for standing up for what you believe. Hang in there dear! You've got us!
Reply With Quote
  #17  
October 15th, 2012, 05:38 AM
enchantingdragon's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
Join Date: Jan 2009
Posts: 6,309
I'm so sorry that you have to go through this right now. I hope that you can find peace soon with or without him. You are a strong lovely wonderful person and he should realize that but if he doesn't its his loss not yours or your baby. Big hugs
Reply With Quote
  #18  
October 15th, 2012, 01:51 PM
MrsLat's Avatar Sept 2014 DDC Co-host
Join Date: Oct 2012
Posts: 3,519
Quote:
Originally Posted by eshute View Post
Thank you all for the kind words. What kills me is he actually asked me last night why I wouldn't get an abortion. I was stunned because he's a pretty religious guy, but he said that God would forgive us if we asked for forgiveness afterward. I just looked at him. I could never do that. I don't judge anyone for their choices, but I know I couldn't do that.
Ugh that makes me sick. Not that I am a religious expert or anything, but I always had the impression that if you committed a sin with the INTENTION of just immediately asking for forgiveness afterward--it wasn't so freely given. So sorry he is being a coward about the situation.. but I really think he may come around. Don't ever compromise on what you believe in. And he either comes around or he doesn't but you deserve respect and someone that will support you AND that sweet innocent baby.
TeresaV and Steph625 like this.
__________________
~*Valerie*~
JaxonJocelyn Gabriel Grayson and due in September!


Reply With Quote
  #19  
October 15th, 2012, 02:02 PM
overlinmommy17's Avatar Super Mommy
Join Date: Sep 2012
Location: Mt. Holly , NC
Posts: 940
Oh i am so sorry to hear this. Please stay strong for the baby. You can do this! You have lots of support here sweetie. Maybe he will come around. just hang tight and know that you can get through anything. You made the right choice by refusing to abort. we support you here. i know it's not much but at least it is something!
Reply With Quote
  #20  
October 15th, 2012, 02:50 PM
eshute's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
Join Date: Oct 2012
Location: Pittsburgh, PA
Posts: 1,573
Again - Thank you all for your support! It looks like we're going to remain room mates for now. I'm not sure if it's harder this way or if it'd be harder if he just left. I have a good support system within my family, and would move the hour and a half from where I am to be near my mother. She is self employed and has already said that if I'd move, she'd definitely help me out by watching the baby while I'm at work and that kind of thing. It's nice to know that I have options no matter what happens.

And thank you everyone on supporting my decision not to abort. I support other women's choices, but I know that it's not something I could ever choose for myself. This may be my only chance to be a mom and I'm not going to do anything to jeopardize it. Between me and my family, the baby will never feel less than completely loved.

I hope you all know how much your support means to me and that I so appreciate the outlet here!
mommy_to_nico likes this.
__________________


Reply With Quote
Reply

Topic Tools Search this Topic
Search this Topic:

Advanced Search
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off



All times are GMT -7. The time now is 09:43 AM.



Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.7
Copyright ©2000 - 2014, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Search Engine Optimization by vBSEO 3.6.0