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October 16th, 2012, 01:26 PM
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Anyone experiencing this? I've only known I'm pregnant for 6 days but I do try to limit my talking about it to friends and my mom is the only family that knows so far.

Sunday I noticed that the vibe had changed between a few of my non-pg friends. It's like they're not so eager to talk to me anymore. Mom said I'm just emotional and it does seem better yesterday and today but I really hope things don't get weird between us.

One friend has her tubes tied after 3 kids, one would probably want another (she has 2) but her DH is VERY against that and the last close friend is unmarried and never even wanted kids until recently but doesn't really have any immediate hopes in that.
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October 16th, 2012, 02:12 PM
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I usually get that. We havent told anyone yet but I am expecting to experience the same.
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October 16th, 2012, 04:23 PM
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That stinks. Kinda makes me feel like an alien the way some people start acting.
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October 16th, 2012, 04:48 PM
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I have noticed. My best friend is my older sister, but she has had a lot of fertility issues and has not yet been able to conceive. This is my 3rd and she has barely spoken to me since I found out 2 weeks ago... I know she is just hurting but I hope she comes around...

Most of the girls I associate with do not have any children, I am a young mom so I kind of expected that to be the case... they just can't really relate with the situation yet.

That is why it is so important to associate with people that are in the same situation when you can! I think that is why justmommies is so popular
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October 16th, 2012, 04:49 PM
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It makes me feel like an alien mainly because none of my friends have kids. My best friend is in the middle of a divorce, one friend is waiting still, and another is waiting because she husband doesnt want kids. Its so hard. We have the largest family in my immediate family. And we get looked down upon a lot which is why we probably wont say anything until almost Christmas.
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October 16th, 2012, 04:59 PM
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Nope, because I haven't told anyone yet but dh!

Navy wifey Why do people look down upon you for having kids? I have heard you say this before I am just wondering why they would look down on you.
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October 16th, 2012, 05:12 PM
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Mainly because we are young and have a large family. And a few people think raising kids isn't as important as having a career. I use to think that a career was eveything now I realize there is much more to life than working. Also my husband doesn't make a ton of money and they think 2 is plenty 3 is pushing it so i can't imagine the comments with 4.
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October 17th, 2012, 07:01 AM
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Yea, my dad is going to hit the flipping roof when he finds out. And HIS dad, my Gpa is also of the mindset that 3 was too many, much less, four!

I wish they could just be happy for us and realize that every life that happens is meant to be.
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October 17th, 2012, 07:24 AM
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Honestly, I've moved so much over the past few years and my friends have to, that we don't really keep in touch all that much anymore. It's sad, but I guess that's life. I've told my best friend and she's very happy for me. She's on her way to getting married, and they definitely want kids. Plus she's really not the jealous or negative-nelly type. My ex is more distant now since we broke up, of course, but he's still trying to be supportive and all that. I guess that's the hardest part for me right now. My mom is ecstatic and super supportive, and my dad is happy as long as I'm happy. I know my other friends will be supportive and happy as long as I'm happy, and so will the rest of my family.

I suppose some people I know will look down on me for getting pregnant with someone I wasn't with for very long and not with anymore, but it's not their life. It's not their baby.

That being said, I'm definitely nervous about telling everyone else.

I hope everyone comes around for all of you! We all deserve all the love and support we can get right now!
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