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October 20th, 2012, 11:21 PM
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We went out with my brother and sil today, and as we were casually talking, she asks "so, do you have a bun in the oven?" I played it off and said "why? Do I look pregnant? I weigh less now than a week ago (thanks to ms)". She then asked if we were going to have anymore and I just sorta shrugged my shoulders. I don't want to out right lie to anyone, but we aren't telling anyone either. I don't know how long I'm going to be able to play it off. I really thought my mom would be the first to start the questions, so I was caught off guard.

What can I say instead of just saying no?
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October 21st, 2012, 04:08 AM
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I think if you don't want to tell anyone yet and they outright ask like that, lie. That's what I would do. I don't want to give other people the power of dictating when I tell. I know it will be awkward but I really don't want to tell people until I decide and so if I have to say no I will. I really want my dd to be able to announce to family with the shirt I got her. She will be the first person we tell.
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October 21st, 2012, 04:13 AM
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I think it's beyond rude when people ask. My good friend asked me last week at a rehearsal dinner and my mind went blank and just said yes. I wish I would have lied. I think what you said to deflect the question with a question was perfect if you don't want to lie and say no.

I will never ever ask anyone if they are pregnant, even if they look 6 months pregnant.
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October 21st, 2012, 05:11 AM
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I'm going to have to deal with the questions next week. We're going to a concert with my sister, BIL, and several friends. They're going to wonder why I'm not drinking. I suck at lying
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October 21st, 2012, 06:34 AM
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Ugh, I think it's so rude when people ask like that! If we wanted them to know yet they would, and if we haven't told them we have our reasons.

QueenCrafty, not sure how you feel about fibbing, but you could tell them that you're doing a cleanse and can't drink, or that you're taking an antibiotic and can't drink because it's making you feel sick, or you could just say you're the designated driver or something.
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October 21st, 2012, 06:42 AM
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I think its in bad taste to ask anyone if they're pregnant. I've thought people were at times but I would never approach someone (family or not) and ask them if they were, or refer to them as pregnant. I don't think you should feel bad about lying at all. Its up to you whether you feel like divulging the information or not. Its really no one else's business
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October 21st, 2012, 08:58 AM
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No one expects me to be pregnant, so I don't really have to worry about the questions. I live at least an hour and a half away from any family, so I don't have to deal with that. The friends that I have here (mostly at work) already know because I've had so much MS and been so tired that I had to tell them. If someone asked me and I didn't want them to know yet, I'd honestly probably just lie. Or give them the you're-crazy face and say "You're really asking me if I'm pregnant?!".
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October 21st, 2012, 09:43 AM
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I'm getting this already at work. We aren't telling anyone until we make sure everything is ok on the u/s. I've been avoiding the questions at work...until the other day. I was gone from work because I was so sick and when I got back one lady kept asking if I had taken a test and if I was pregnant. I had a hormonal meltdown and told her that if she asked me one more time I would slap her. A little overkill in retrospect but she hasn't mentioned it since lol.
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October 21st, 2012, 11:45 AM
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I am probably going to get this when we go down for my daughter's birthday party. I think you handled it perfectly.
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October 21st, 2012, 12:10 PM
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I'm getting this already at work. We aren't telling anyone until we make sure everything is ok on the u/s. I've been avoiding the questions at work...until the other day. I was gone from work because I was so sick and when I got back one lady kept asking if I had taken a test and if I was pregnant. I had a hormonal meltdown and told her that if she asked me one more time I would slap her. A little overkill in retrospect but she hasn't mentioned it since lol.
Pretty sure she knows though.
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October 21st, 2012, 01:36 PM
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Pretty sure she knows though.
Oh I'm sure she does. My point was, it's not anyone's business until I'm ready to make it their business. People can be very rude and invasive and, in general, have no tact when it comes to things like this.
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