We pride ourselves on having the friendliest
and most welcoming forums for moms and moms to be! Please take a moment
for free so you can be a part of our growing community of mothers.
If you have any problems registering please drop an email to firstname.lastname@example.org.
Our community is moderated by our moderation team so you won't see spam or offensive messages posted on our forums. Each of our message boards is hosted by JustMommies hosts, whose names are listed at the top each board. We hope you find our message boards friendly, helpful, and fun to be on!
So, my dad is a grouch. Ever since he found out my husband and I got pregnant, he first said it was a mistake. He hasn't asked me one time how I am feeling, how my doc. apt goes, or wants to see any ultrasound pictures. He doesn't ever join in on baby conversation, or shows interest in my pregnancy. He actually doesn't speak to me at all really. I don't think he is ready to be a grandpa at all. (Even though he acts like he's 100 years old)
So this year, we all got invited to my mother-in-law's big Thanksgiving dinner. HER family is ecstatic about having another baby in the family. They've already started belly rubbing and coming up with name suggestions etc etc. So my dad is going and all evening long I know everybody is going to be saying "Congratulations Grampa!!" So, I'm a little nervous about Thanksgiving this year. A part of me wishes he would just stay home lol, but I need him to accept that his daughter is having a baby and is happy. Maybe if he sees how happy everyone else is, he'll come around. We can only hope the worlds biggest grump can change his opinion!!
He will come around...even if it isn't until baby gets here. Like someone else said, I've never known a grandparent to not love their grandchild. My dad was very negative when I was pregnant with my first. He didn't really talk to me about any of it. Now he has my daughter wrapped around his finger and would do anything for her.
I am sorry that he has reacted this way. Why does he think it's a mistake? That must be hard, maybe he will soften up the idea after being around everyone who is so excited. Maybe someone will tell him that he needs to be more supportive!