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So DH was given a few days off for the holidays which was nice so he could help me with turkey day prep. Well the company he works for called today and and laid him off. It was a temp agency so no unemployment or anything. He does have a new job lined up but that doesnt start for another month and so the way the pay periods on that job will line up means no paychecks til after xmas. So that means my pile of bills will stack up higher. God forbid i hope the gas and electric dont get shut off. This also means my 2 year old will get nothing for xmas. Not even from grandparents...my mom is jobless and in debt. My dad is cheap and doesnt believe kids need toys for xmas. Hes always been a scrooge. I feel like crying so bad but im trying not to cry to upset DH because he takes his role as provider very seriously and this is hurting him. I am so mad at this company to do this before thanksgiving with xmas around the corner
how crappy! There are lots of places in Minneapolis that will help you with kids gifts I believe you may need to sign up. I don't live there anymore so I don't have contact info but ask around. I know it is not the same feeling as shopping yourself but hopefully will still bring you joy. Also another idea if your DD has toys she has not played with in a long time rewrap them. The beauty of that age is she won't remember this Christmas next year and kids really just like to upwrap and play with the box
I hope things start looking up for you soon!
Be sure to look into the EAP (Energy Assistance Program). It is federally funded, so I know that they offer it in your state, but that will help cover most the cost of your utilities. And like some of the other ladies said, be sure to look into Toys for Tots or the Sub for Santa programs in your area.
I am so sorry to hear you are going through so much and at the worst possible time of the year!
Thanks everyone for the support and advice. I did sign up for toys for tots. Although it still stings not being able to get the things for her that she wanted. Its just a completely awful feeling and me being emotional from these hormones right now makes it worse of course.
Last year, my husband walked out the door, leaving the kids and I with a giant house, a giant car and giant bills. My job required travelling all over the US, and suddenly I had NO one to help with the kids while I was out of town, and I had to quit. It was shocking and devestating. I kept my heater off, only had lights when absolutely necessary. I still don't know how we made it through, and it definitely was with some bumps and bruises, especially to my credit.
And I felt destitute, and more lost than ever. Point is, I totally understand, and I think a lot of us do.
We have a nation that over-values pride, and sees accepting assistance as a weakness. I know I struggled with it. Thing is- it takes a village to raise a child, and there are many times you have been an angel to those around you, without a doubt.
So- search out assistance. From a faith group, local non-profits, or from friends. There is support out there. Accept it graciously, and enjoy the holidays.
Angels and miracles come from out of the blue all the time.